Mens guide 2 Sex On: Getting Her to Return That Call

This is a very familiar, and common thing to have happen - you find a very attractive young lady, chat her up, and wind up getting her number. You then call her.

Then it happens. Time passes, and no return call. So you try again and leave a message.

Again, no return phone call.

Not wanting to seem "desperate," you play it cool, wait a day or two, and then try calling her one more time.

You try and sound cheery when her voicemail picks up. You remind her who you are, and you ask her - almost BEG her - to call you back.

And again, you hear nothing. Eventually, you give up, another opportunity with a beautiful girl wasted!

So many guys have no idea why this happens. After all, if the girl didn't want to talk to you, why did she give you her number in the first place?

This is what is actually happening here. A woman generally gives out her number in these scenarios for two reasons.

REASON 1: They genuinely like you and want to hear from you again.

REASON 2: She doesn't care to hear from you again, but it's easy (and safe) to blow you off this way without being rude.

If reason #2 is the case, there's very little you can do to get the girl to call you back, because by that time, you've probably "blown" your chance.

But when it comes to reason #1, you're STILL not very lucky!

See - even if a girl genuinely likes you, and wants to call you back, there are any NUMBER of things that could interfere with her doing so.

She could get busy, she could get sick, she could have some sort of crisis with her favorite pet... the list goes on and on.

So what does that mean to you? Are you destined to simply never have a girl you like return your phone call?

Lucky for you, the answer is NO. There are some things you can do to get a girl to call you back.

First things first, you need to make sure you get her REAL number to begin with.

Girls get asked for their number so often by guys, that many women have taken up the practice of giving out fake numbers. So when you ask for her number, you want to be sure she's actually interested enough to give you the real deal.

If the girl is not interested, don't bother asking for her number. Instead, ask for something a little less personal, like her email address or myspace page.

If she is interested, try this trick - ask for her phone, and then call yourself with it so that her number is in your phone, then save that number. This way, you know for a FACT you have her actual phone number.

(And while your at it, you can actually save your number in her phone so she knows its you when you call. This is important because lots of people don't pick up unknown numbers!)

Okay, so you have the number, now what? You need to give her a REASON to return your call!

Too often, guys will just call up a girl and leave a message like "Hey, it's Mike, we met the other night. Call me back. Later!"

How about trying something a bit more URGENT. It could be as simple as:

"Hey, it's Mike from the other night. You're not going to believe what I'm watching right now, its going to crack you up. Call me back!"

Creating an "open" conversation loop and some type of curiosity will help encourage a girl to call you back, because naturally, she'll want to find out what it was that you thought she'd find amusing.

This is just one example - there are lots of different ways for you to create curiosity over the phone. You can even go so far as to recall a conversation you had when you first met, so that she'll remember the feelings she experienced when she was around you.

But most of all - do NOT get frustrated if you don't hear back from her right away! Girls get busy, so you need to change tactics.

Try texting her instead of calling. Ask when she will be available to talk. It's VERY rare that a woman won't have time for a small text reply.

Once you figure out how this all works, getting a girl to call you back is pretty easy.
By: Getting Her to Return That Call

By: Joseph Matthew

Mens Guide 2 Sex On: Art of Flirting

Flirting is the way most people determine whether or not a member of the opposite sex is interested in them. Following is a quick outline on how you should go about the complex, sometimes fun, sometimes not so fun, task of flirting. It all beings with your approach.

The Approach

One person approaches the other. They move into closer physical proximity. This much is clear: NO approach equals NO possibility of initiating contact. You must approach!

Example: A woman sits down next to a man in a coffee shop, or a man stands near a woman in a dance club. This is the first step. Once you approach, you begin looking for the signs.

The Signs

The person who has been approached will always signal the other’s presence in some way…a sign. This signal is not like a train whistle, however, more a subtle body language which you can learn to recognize. For example, he or she simply may look up, move over to make room, nod slightly, or signal with a glancing eye contact.

A display of total obliviousness to the one who is approaching generally indicates lack of interest altogether. Don’t be discouraged. But if the one you approached shows absolutely no interest, then it’s time to re-group and try again. But let’s say the approach works. You have your positive acknowledgement, now what? Time to talk

The Verbal Exchange

The two people may then engage in a mild verbal exchange about impersonal, unimportant matters such as the weather or the scene around them. The key word here is MILD.

This is the classic place for the clever “line,” but cleverness is not required. At this point, a verbal exchange is not for the purpose of sharing valuable insights about life or determining philosophical compatibility. It is just a vehicle to further the developing contact.

Examples: Verbal overtures might include anything from “please pass the pickles” to “your looking great tonight”, to “have you seen the waitress?”. Without some form of verbal response, it is highly unlikely that the next step will occur. Let’s say all is going as planned. Time for body language.

Body Language

Over a period of time, a couple that has begun to talk may also begin to orient themselves physically to one another, to turn toward one another until, if all is goes well, they are fully facing one another. This is your goal.

This step can take minutes or hours . . . or weeks or months . . . to achieve. Yet, without this physical reorientation toward one another, not very much can ever happen, so give up on people who turn their back toward you for long periods of time! But if they don’t…

Touching

The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches the other in a light, fleeting way. Examples: A couple might accidentally brush their hands against one another while reaching for a drink, or the woman might pat the man on the arm in the middle of a shared joke. The exchange of very subtle, almost glancing touches may continue for some while, and if all goes well, can escalate into the casual affections shown by couples who are dating. If you’ve reached this point, then flirting has now become the beginning of a relationship. The Art of Flirting should always end with the beginning of a relationship. Now get out there and flirt.

The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making first contact. You only have one shot at making a great first impression. By following some of the guidelines we’ve established in this article, you should now be equipped to locate, approach, and ascertain whether or not your subtle flirting has opened the doors to a new and exciting relationship.

By: Andre Leblanc

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Tantric Techniques for How to Please a Woman

It’s not what you think! It's not about where to kiss or lick or rub or how hard or how fast. Its not about harder, longer erections (although those are also very nice!) A woman's body and her responses are so changeable. What pleased her last week does nothing for her tonight.

Many men learn about women's sexuality from pornography. I have nothing against pornography and I quite enjoy some pornography myself. But, the depiction of women's sexuality in pornography is simply not accurate. Many women compound this lack of information by expecting her man to know how to please her without telling him. You can encourage her to communicate with you. You can also learn to expand your consciousness so that you can sense what she desires without her telling you in words.

She needs is your full attention. She needs to trust that you are there with her with your complete presence. If your mind wanders to your car or your career or the bills due at the end of the month, she can feel it and she loses trust.

Improving your ability to please a woman is very like learning to play a musical instrument. It takes practice, patience and experience to make beautiful music. You master the basics before moving on to advanced techniques. Here are some good basic practices for you to start with. Learning to please a partner with Tantric teachings starts with practices you do by yourself. While pleasuring yourself, expand your attention to your entire body: your toes and fingers and top of your head and everything in between. When you can do this at the height of arousal, expand your consciousness to your entire body and to your surroundings, noise from the street, light in the room, air temperature, the bed against your back, the trees seen through the window. Next, do these consciousness practices with your partner. And, finally, expand your consciousness to your entire body, your surroundings and your partner’s body as she experiences being in it at each moment. If your mouth is on her breast, imagine how it feels to have a breast and feel someone’s mouth on it. When you master this expansion of consciousness, you will simply know without effort what she wants from you in any moment.

Send energy into her body with your mind.

Tantra teaches us that a man yearns to empty himself out and a woman yearns to be filled up. There are many ways to do this in addition to the physical sex act. You can penetrate a woman with your consciousness, your energy and your attention before or while you penetrate her with parts of your body. The practice in the above paragraph is one way to do this. As you expand your consciousness to include her body as she experiences being in it, you penetrate with your energy. She will feel the difference! She may not be aware of why, but she will feel more trust and connection. She will feel more alive. Another wonderful practice is to use your mind to send energy into her body through your fingers. Imagine that there is a fire in your hand (which there is!) and think about sending the warmth and light from that fire into her body.

And finally, be aware that a woman experiences her sexuality and emotions very differently from a man. I believe very strongly in letting men be men and letting women be women and celebrating the differences and the gifts that we bring to each other. But I also believe it is helpful to understand these differences. For a man, sex and love are very separate experiences. A man can learn to connect his heart and sexual energy if he wishes and there are benefits to this. For a woman, love and sex are much more naturally linked. When you take a woman in your arms, remember that she is experiencing that time with you with her heart as well as her sexual body.

By: Nancy Ibsen

Mens guide 2 Sex On: How to Seduce a Woman Utilizing 'Deflection Theory’

There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!


By: Tiffany Taylor

Mens Guide 2 Sex On: How To Talk To A Woman On The Phone

If you are to date successfully, you'll need the ability to communicate well. The ability to communicate will directly effect your ability to attract women.

And when it comes to communication, nothing is more important than knowing how to speak to a girl on the phone.

After you start seeing someone on a regular basis, and seeing them face to face, your main method of keeping the relationship going is using the TELEPHONE.

Without speaking to someone on the phone, it's going to be difficult to create the type of rapport necessary to sustain a relationship.

So having good phone skills is VITAL to success with women!

I speak from experience, that your phone presence can either RUIN you, or make you seem so confident, mysterious, and fun that she can't WAIT to go out with you.

Here is what you need to know to make a great impression on the phone, and keep her interested in you...

1.) Don't Be Nervous on the phone!

If you're nervous talking on the phone, that will cause you to let the conversation stall. She'll be able to tell if you're struggling to make chit-chat, and it'll hurt her impression of you.

The key here is to NOT BE NERVOUS when you call a girl! If you find yourself feeling the nerves before you call, take some time and calm yourself down. Take some deep breaths, listen to some soothing music, and remember that there are plenty of other girls out there if it doesn't work out with this one.

It's important to project the right attitude while one the phone. Being (and sounding) confident will always trump nervousness! So allow yourself to have fun and relax!

2.) Be ASSERTIVE When You Talk!

Most people MUMBLE and STUMBLE all over themselves with garbage like: "What'cha been doing?" Nothing bores a girl more than these boring, awkward questions.

If you rely on the girl to lead the conversation, you're going to find that the conversation will end quickly.

You have to be assertive in the conversation and steer it where you want it to go. Do NOT rely on her to carry this burden!

Have some topics you'd like to talk about before you call up. This will give you an idea of what to talk about if the conversation stalls. If she mentions something that interests you while talking, ask her about it in more detail.

Be active in making the conversation!

3.) Don't just call without a reason.

Calling just for idle banter is a waste of time. While speaking with a woman should be fun, there should be a motive for you to call her.

There is a reason. You'd rather not have her think that you'll want to chat on the phone for 2 hours every time your name pops up on caller ID.

Know what goal you want to achieve with the phone call before you start dialing! Is it to set up a date? Is it to touch base? Is it to strengthen your rapport?

Having a reason for calling her will help you stay focused on your end goal.

4.) Don't ask, instead, INVITE!

When talking to a girl, the urge is to give her the last decision on what to do.

Saying something like "Are you busy Friday?" might sound reasonable to you, but you're still putting the burden on her to find the time to hang out with you!

Whenever you push a girl over the phone to meet up, you'll want to frame things as though you're inviting her to join you, rather than having her choose how to meet up with you.

And trust me - there IS a difference!

Saying "Would you like to hang out tomorrow night?" is much different than "I'm going to this really awesome bar tomorrow night to check out a killer band, would you like to come?"

Offering the girl you're talking to opportunities will motivate her to say "yes" more than if you asked her if she'd be willing to spend time with you.

5.) Be congruent with who you are!

When talking on the phone, there's an issue that comes up where we are different people than we are normally. Maybe we're a little more outgoing, or engaging, or funny, or whatever.

Keep in mind that in order for a date to be successful, you have to be CONSISTENT about who you are, so the girl can really get to know you.

Don't try and be someone you're not on the phone. Just because you're not face-to-face does not give you the leeway to lie or misrepresent yourself. The truer you can be about who you are and what you're like, the greater your likelihood of success.

Talking the phone is an unfortunate but necessary part of dating. Most guys don't care for it, but if you can learn to do it better, you'll find that many women will be far more open to meeting up with you than normal.


By: Joseph Matthew

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: How To Attract Women With Your Words

There are times when even confident and successful men need tips on talking to girls. I mean, hasn’t there ever been a time when you tried to initiate a conversation only to end up in an awkward situation?

Don’t feel bad though. We all have our off days and there’s certainly no harm in learning more tips on talking to girls. If you want to broaden your knowledge on the art of conversing with the female species, then this is the article for you!

Tips On Talking To Girls # 1: Ditch the Manly Conversations.

It all begins with what you say. Women enjoy meaningful conversations with men. To engage in such, you have to talk about something both of you can relate to.

While the latest football game might be a constant subject of interest among your best male buds, this just won’t do when talking to girls. Don’t try to use sports as a way to show off how manly your thoughts are either.

Tips On Talking To Girls # 2: Find a Common Ground.

Start with your immediate surroundings. “Isn’t the music awesome?” or “Their grilled salmon is really delicious.” From there, you can actually have a decent conversation about music and food in general, which can then lead to you treating her to this quaint steak house around the corner.

Tips On Talking To Girls # 3: Be Casual Yet Polite.

When talking to girls, there’s no need for formalities. Be casual, but don’t forget your manners either. Remain a gentleman with your thoughts, words and actions. Girls find this combination effortlessly charming and attractive.

Now that you know these tips on talking to girls, you no longer have to deal with awkward situations and silent moments. Tone down your usual arrogance, engage them in conversations which they can relate to, and stay polite yet informal when you talk. The combination of these three simple tips will definitely score you plus points!

Mens guide 2 Sex On: Signs Of Attraction that A Girl Likes You: How Well Do You Score?

Do you want to know the signs of attraction that a girl likes you? Well, I don’t really blame you. There’s something wonderful about knowing that a person admires you.

We’ve all been on that road before. Sometimes, your instinct tells you that a girl likes you, only to end up being a mistake. Sometimes, you second guess yourself and wonder what to make of one girl.

Not all girls express their affections in the same way. However, there are common signs of attraction that a girl likes you, and you can apply these signals to your own situation.

1) Flattery is everything.

One of the common signs of attraction that a girl likes you is when she showers you with compliments. A lady friend will probably congratulate you for a job well done, but a girl who really digs you will find reasons to praise you whenever she can.

You don’t have to do anything. You could just be hanging out with your buddies and she’ll throw a compliment about your shirt, your hair, or whatever it is you've got going on at the moment.

She won’t be doing it just once either. Despite her obvious admiration, don’t forget to say “thank you” every time.

2) Fleeting or lingering touches.

Girls get away with touching guys a lot. Guys might chalk the fleeting touches as coincidence or girly nature, but it is actually one of the reliable signs of attraction that a girl likes you.

Touches are meant to convey different messages. They might mean to soothe, to reassure, or to flirt. Consider the situation you’re in to understand what her touches mean.

3) Baking a cake.

Not every girl is a kitchen goddess, but they can always find ways to send you something nice.

One of the dependable signs of attraction that a girl likes you is when she does something as nice as baking a cake for you. She might buy a cake from your favorite bake shop or bring you pizza on a Saturday afternoon. They say that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, and you won’t believe just how many girls take that old adage to heart.

Knowing the signs of attraction that a girl likes you is almost equal to power. However, that power is not for you to abuse. It is for you to figure out what your next step will be. Always remember to keep your feet on the ground and to express your appreciation when a girl does something nice for you.

Mens guide 2 Sex: Ways To Know What Women Want And How To Deal With It

As you enjoy the moment spending time with the woman you’ve come to love, everything seems to be going so well, so perfect, suddenly, she slap you in the face. What the …..? Having been caught off guard, you start to wonder what you did wrong. You’d have to ask. You’ve just added insult–to–injury.

This is one of the many innocent mistakes men make. So, how do we know what women want and how do we deal with it? When you’re in a fancy restaurant with your date or having a meal at a local diner, don’t gorge your food, no matter how famished you feel.

Remember that she takes eating together as a form of bonding activity. What women want is to spend time with you. So don’t rush through your meal, it makes her feel as if you don’t like to be there. What women want is for you to be considerate on how she feels.

Let her know you’re enjoying yourself by taking things in moderation. Pay close attention to body language. We actually throw out subtle signals if they’re interested in you. If you don’t take the bait, she would ultimately presume that you’re not interested in having sex with her. Try to observe some of these practices on what women want in the – – –art of seduction: The way she dresses up for you, touches you more often or mention her visits at the spa.

When we have problems, they’d like to vent their frustrations with their man. One common innocent mistake a man makes is that he would automatically presume that she needs advice. Wrong. In fact, she would almost feel like your giving her a lecture and not totally listen to her problems at hand.

She doesn’t just want you to solve it. What women want is your sympathy and support. So, the next time she pours out her problems to you about having a lousy day, try to keep your thoughts to yourself. Instead what women want you to say is a little something like “Sorry to hear about it, baby.

Wish I could do something that would make you feel better.” When you’ve manage to hang–out with your friends and can’t give her the same amount of energy as you did with your friends, she’d feel like your using her as a recuperation companion. Make sure that you’re equally in the right frame of mind when you meet up with your girl.

Take it into account not to dress up like a slob. You’re sending a message to her that you don’t really care about the night. How hard can it be to put on an ironed shirt and wear a clean pair of jeans? Bear in mind, a sloppy look can be a major turn–off.

The secret to understand and know what women want, according to Jessica Claire is, always respond with a feeling or emotion.

By Ruth Purple

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Seducing Married Women

Seducing a married woman may sound a bit illegal and downright wrong, but still, a lot of men do it for a sense of danger and the undoubtedly high thrill that comes with it. There is something alluring when seducing married women. There is challenge when trying to get something that is already taken. And come to think it: you will go absolutely out of your head when the married woman seduces you back!

Now, we're not engaging into something criminal and we're not promoting adultery over here. Flirting is a normal thing. It is harmless and normal, but totally fun. Now, what is it that makes married women tick? It's probably because they are not getting the kind of attention that they need from their husbands, so they decided to wing it to check out the other men.

To be blatant about it, married women who flirt seek a sexual relationship. There is no commitment, no obligation. Just stolen moments that satisfy their thirst for something that is probably lacking in their lives. More men confess sexual relationships are the best: no dates (married women would not want to be seen with other men), everything is pledge-free, and be sure to expect a very wild and unabashed sex life.

Here are some guidelines to seduce married women:

Give them your 100% attention. Married women who flirt are most probably depressed with their married life so they seek new horizons. Let them feel that they are beautiful and sexy. Most of them are insecure since they feel they are less hot than when they were single. Treat them like they're not married at all. This would totally turn them on. Keep things light and spontaneous. Sure, it's not a serious relationship but at least keep things stress-free. They will love your naturalness and may consider having a sexual bond with you in no time.


By Mark Talor