Saturday, July 4, 2015

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: The Very Biggest Dating Mistakes

    Dating can be a challenging venture. Getting a date is challenging enough, getting a second date can be even more challenging. Knowing what to do is very hard. Lets face it women can be picky, difficult, and confusing. They don't give clues on what to do and they punish you if you get it wrong. Now what is the right thing to do differs from girl to girl, but there are some basic don't that you can apply to most women that will help your chances for a second date. With that being said, here are few dating mistakes that everyone makes that you should avoid.

Tip 1: Don't Talk Too Much.

     They say women like to talk. The truth is they like to talk while you listen. The biggest problem with talking to much is you run the risk of saying the wrong thing. It doesn't take much to turn most women off. You mention your into something that she doesn't like or express an opinion that she disagrees with strongly, you're toast. Just giving too much information can sabotage you. On a third or fourth date you may get away with it, but on the first is suicide. Another problem with talking a lot is how you come off. There are many different ways to come off by talking a lot and most of them are bad. If she isn't really into what you're talking about can come off as boring. Then there is the other way. You could have a very interesting life with much to tell but too much and you come off full of yourself. Another bad thing to avoid by talking a lot is you don't want to look like a know it all. Now there are exceptions to the rule. Shy women usually like you to talk more but you do want her to do most of it. So do yourself a favor and keep it simple. If he want to know something, trust me when I say she will ask.

Tip 2: Don't Misrepresent Yourself

    Honesty is very important to women. So being genuine is very much in your best interests. It is hard to establish a connection with someone you don't trust. therefore embellishing isn't a good idea. Depending on the situation it is better to downplay and be a pleasant surprise than to exaggerate and be a disappointment. Most of the men they come across are full of it anyway, so the look for lies. Also if you brag about too much and make yourself seem too good to be true, she may start to think you're just that, to good to be true. You want to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Don't say it if you can't deliver. The main reason you don't want to exaggerate is because it's not necessary. If she is on a date with you then she has already seen something in you and is just hoping you don't fuck it up more than she is looking for you to convince her to move forward. Simply put, be yourself and be humble.

Tip 3: Don't Be Cheap

     Being frugal on a first date is always a bad idea. This is one thing most women look for. For them, this says a lot about you. It say's how much you value money, how much you value her, and how generous you are. So you don't want to ask to go dutch. You want to avoid fast food restaurants, walks in the park, even having her meet you instead of picking her up may hurt you. I'm not saying these are instant killers as much as I'm saying at some point during the date you need to spend some money. You don't have to break the bank and get expensive. Just don't be dirt cheap.

Tip 4: Don't Have Sex On The First Date.

      This is important because of respect. It maybe tempting and hard to say no but it does increase your chances for a second date. If you want more dates or even just establishing a relationship respect does come into play. She will respect you more if you refrain from sex immediately. It will say a lot about you and you will come off as different than most guys. Don't just flat out say no, otherwise she will feel rejected. Just explain to her that you like her and it is important to you that she respects you. Sometimes a woman may not be into you but she does find you attractive and decide to use the opportunity to just get off,. In which case you probably should just get the sex because you're not going to get another date. If that isn't the situation, to see her again you are better off saying no.

       Now those are four really important tips for a first date. I'm not saying that not making those mistake guarantee a second date I'm just saying they are a huge help. Not making those mistakes combine with showing her a good time should get you another date. So keep them in mind the next time you're out with a woman you really like.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: How To Know If She's Into You

    Sometimes it can be hard to know when a women is into you. Women give a lot of mixed signals. It is usually done for one of two reasons. It is either done for one, test you or two, not to look to easy. This is a game women have been playing for years. In any event, it's a game you need to figure out juts to know if you're wasting your time or not. So today's posts is about what to look for so you can figure it out.

      The biggest giveaways are her body language. How she stands, how she sit, what she is doing while she stands and sits are all giveaways on how she feels about you. If she plays with her hair while talking to you is a big one. Putting her back to the rest of the world and focusing on you is a sure sign. Leaning in towards you when you talk is another one. Unnecessary touching is a huge one. This is her way of showing posses ion (telling all the other girls this one is mine). Now not doing these things isn't a sign that she isn't interested, they're just signs that she is interested.

     There are also signs in the way she reacts to you while in proximity. For example always laughing at all your jokes is a good sign that she I interested. Giggling says she really thought it was funny but is trying to hold back how funny it really was. With laughing, it's one extreme or another. So if she is laughing at them all, then that's a sign she doesn't think that they're all funny but she wants to let you know she's into the conversation. Keeping constant eye contact is another sure sign. Being very enthusiastic towards you in general can be considered a way of determining that she's into you. If she is calm and start to be herself around you, says she is relaxed around you and trusts you. Therefore if it happens, you're in.

      When you're not necessarily in the same place, they tend to leave signs as well. If she keeps popping up in places where you always hang out is one sign. If she makes sure you have a way to contact her (email, cell phone, work phone) is a way of determining if she likes you. If she always seem available to help you with your needs is a clue she might be a little interested. Giving you a pet name or sending you a lot of text messages is a sign. All ways asking you questions or constantly asking your advice on something is an obvious clue. If you're getting these signals, just ask her out and look for the other signals on the date to figure out how much.

     Well those are a few of the ways to find out if a girl is into you. There are a lot more, but this a blog post, not a book. So you need to go practice to find some more. With that being said, go out and meet some women and see if they work. While you're at it, you can get some practice.


Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Knowing When To Go In For The Kiss

      How to know when to go for a kiss can be a difficult thing to figure out. Once a guy asked me how do I get a girl to kiss me. Well it's like this, you don't get girls to kiss you. You kiss girls. As far as they are concerned they don't kiss boys, the got kissed. Women love to kiss, especially if a guy is good at it. Depending on how good looking you are, you can probably just walk up to random women and start kissing them. You would be surprised on how many women would sleep with a guy just to keep the kissing coming. You would even be more surprised on how many women won't sleep with a guy just because he isn't good at kissing. The only reason you're not allowed to start kissing them immediately on a date is because she's worried about what you will think of her. So don't underestimate the importance of kissing when it comes to women and sex.

    If you go on a date with a girl, she is thinking in her mind “I wonder if he is going to kiss me or try and kiss me.” Even if she doesn't kiss on the first date, she probably at least wants you to try. There is a better than 50% chance she wouldn't be on the date at all if she hasn't thought about kissing you. There are those occasions where they give mercy dates just to be nice and they have no intentions of ever kissing you. Those situations are very rare, most women aren't doing that and if that's the case, you will recognize that situation very early. If you're date ends in two hours and / or in the middle of the day, that is usually the situation. If you're not sure, a phone call afterward will clear it up. In any event if she is on that date, she is expecting a kiss at the end of it. Now she may change her mind by the end of it but when she first got there she was expecting a kiss or at least an attempt.

   The kiss for women is the ultimate reassurance that you like them. When you don't try and kiss them, their insecurities start to mess with them and they ask “what is wrong with me? Does he think I'm gross? Why isn't he trying to make a move?” So not trying to kiss can and probably will turn her off. Now that all of that is out of the way, it brings me to the point of this post. Knowing when to try for that kiss.

      Well first sign is the licking or touch of the lips. When she does that she is definitely think what would it be like to kiss you. So that is the first sign on you should start planning on creating an opportunity. The second clue is the invasion of personal space. She either starts to invade yours or allows you to invade hers. You should also know women get anxious. So they position themselves for certain things they are ready for. Like if you haven't approached a women yet and she's sitting next to you, she might start to point her legs in you're direction in preparation for you're approach. That's just an example. They tend to do the same kind of thing when it come to kissing. They might start leaning in every time you start talking to her. Now there is a way is to test it. Now the way to do that is to touch her on the elbow lightly with one hand and then point to something behind her with the other and ask about it. If she doesn't tense up and lets you get into the personal space, she is definitely ready for you to try.

      Now you know the female mind when it comes to kissing. I hope this post has been helpful in letting you know when and how to find out if and when to kiss a girl. With that being said go out and have some fun.

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Writing Love Letters

       This post is about love letters. If you want to really turn your significant other on, try a love letter. A good love letter is something she will cherish and keep for years, even after the relationship has ended. It is a way to show how you feel in a very emotional and personal level. She will appreciate it in ways that no one can explain. It's a way to be intimate without being physical. When you can get an intimate connection with a woman without being physical, you can write yourself a blank check into her heart life and pants. She is yours for whatever you want. It doesn't matter if it's a mailed letter or a card, you will be forever in her heart if you can put your feeling in words. So here are a few tips to help you create that work of art love letter.

  •     First of all be personal. Put things that relate to only you and her. If there is an inside joke that only you two share then put a reference to it in there. A memorable trip that comes to mind that brought out some emotions, mention how you felt about it. All of these things will make the letter feel very personal and sincere. Your letter should sound like it came from the heart.

  •     Next tip tell her what she wants to hear. Mention how much you need her. Let her know how beautiful you think she is. Tell her how beautiful she is and why you think she's beautiful. Don't just mention physical traits but personality traits as well. That way she doesn't feel like your feelings are shallow.

  •     Another tip is be sure to mention how much you cherish her. Women like to here how much they are appreciated. It will show you don't take her for granted. Mention some of the things she does for you. Say you don't know what you would do without her. Talk about how you feel when she's not around and how much you miss her.

  •     Also don't be afraid to get sexual either. Women love to feel desirable. Believe it or not, women do like bringing out unadulterated lust out of a man. If you were together a long time, she will definitely like the idea that she still does that for you. You want to aim for sultry but nasty does work. This will take some of the sappiness out of the letter. So don't be scared to get a little naughty in your letter. Just don't over do it. Too much will take away from the letter.

  • Last tip is to be sentimental. Share your feelings. Be sure to show your emotions. You need to express how much you love her and why. Women are very emotional creators. They are practically slaves to their emotions. So your letter should trigger these emotions. Use metaphors and compare her and your emotions to things she can relate to. Simply put you want to pour your heart out. If you do this tip right, the rest of the love letter almost doesn't matter.

     Now you know what you need to do to write a good love letter. The good thing about love letters is they can save you a lot of trouble when it comes to communication. Men are always being accused of not expressing how they feel or showing their emotions. If you get this a lot from your lady, This is a sure fire way of avoiding a lot of these fights. Also sometime it's true. You maybe the type of guy that can't talk about thing like that and the letter is a way out. Also it's a way of being romantic. If you send a love letter to the house when you're not there by the time you get home she will have taken care of the rest. A letter is a great way to get closer to a woman without the work that other interaction require and it usually works faster and a lot better as well. So don't underestimate it's power. With that being said, get to writing.

By: Intimate Asking