Men's Guide To Sex On: How to Deal with Rejection from Women

Are women actually interested in you when they first see you? Or is it that they are interested in what they are seeing as a reflection of their own ideals and expectations?

And what about when women reject you or don't even give you a chance? Has this hurt you before even though other guys will tell you not to take it personally or to just 'keep on approaching and you'll get over it'?

Well I'm going to help you deal with this 'rejection' and set it more straight right now (for free).

What's really going on are many different things and on different levels.

I want you to be able to differentiate a woman's response to you so that you can understand it so that it doesn't hurt you or even affect you but rather that you can learn what hasn't been working and take advantage of what does work.

When a woman sees you for the first time, she is extrapolating every little detail about you to determine whether you might be a fit for her.

These usually accurate judgments she is making off of the smallest details about you will help protect her or open you up to having a chance with her.

In the future I will get deeply into getting yourself to the point where you are communicating that you are everything she could want even if you don't have the best looks or money, age, etc.

But for now, this data that she is judging off of you is either working for you or against you. You may have had women blow you off or flat out reject you after you approached and started talking or they never even gave you a chance before you approached.

Is this something you should take personally?

I don't want to give you a shallow answer, I want to give you the MEANING behind it; the schematics and reasoning so bear with me and it will be worth it.

Does a woman even know you when they she first sees you?

Then how can you possibly accept any kind of rejection?

Just because you approached her and she rejected you does not mean that you have a low character or are undesirable.

Does it?

Here's the bad news; some of the readers on this list may actually have a low character and the women ARE judging accurately (albeit without knowing more b/c they feel they don't need or want to find out more).

This can all be changed so that any man can not only more accurately portray more of what she is attracted to but actually BE that man in congruity.

The primary key is for him to get in touch with his own natural/ universal character and stop relying so much on his limited independent or social character.

The rest of the guys probably do have a higher independent or social character but just aren't being themselves when they approach a woman. They're using a pick-up persona or player front or they're just being a nice guy (overly nice and not their true self).

Otherwise they're just not in touch with their natural/universal character in order to spark attraction anyways.

Too many guys these days (and it's being taught) are focusing on the social and even independent (I'm a nice guy) parts of their character when it comes to attracting women.

This sets a man up for rejection because these two areas are the least important and are what women respond to the least when it comes to attraction and her wanting you; it's just really hard to see through it when women have become the rulers of the social 'matrix'.

Natural order is flipped around in our social behaviour patterns so you just have to see through all of the social influence and deal with her biology; the one thing that doesn't change and is what is the essence of what she desires that (healthy) men would realize.

So if you are focusing on your social 'pick up game' you're going to have to get real good at it and then because of your high character, the charts work in reverse so that eventually she may feel a spark of attraction. In other words:

You have to talk her into it and let her realize that you are a man of high character.

This takes longer because you started on the wrong end of the character continuum in your communication and portrayal of yourself to her.

Like I said it also sets you up for failure because you have to get all of the words just right and her temperance is wavering.

Hopefully this will help you understand why men are rejected more and perhaps yourself in the past sometimes. Understanding it is key to putting it in it's place and then changing to do the more effective things.

When you are a man of high natural/universal character and communicate this with your body language (often enough alone), the universal/natural part of the woman knows to respond to you and you don't have to use words.

She is prewired to know how to respond and be attracted to a man that has a strong connection to his universal/natural (which used to be almost all men but people were more localized then).

Today, very few men are in full touch with this and those that are, are the guys that are scoring the most with women. It's that simple.

When you can get in touch with the natural/universal power that is greater than you (and is your inheritance) you can have that power to create attraction (naturally) and make it a part of your own character...add it to your game and it will make ALL the difference.

You won't even have to deal with rejection anymore because you'll be able to read and communicate with women on the nonverbal level (the unspoken), that which was formerly invisible.

So back to the rejection issue...when a woman sees you and you aren't effectively communicating that you are a man of high character (either incongruently or because you just aren't there yet), she most likely won't give you a chance.

The key is to understand where you are on the character continuum.

If you ARE a great (nice) guy, then remember that she is just judging her initial impression of you. You may have a high independent character and be a great guy so just separate that from the fact that you were currently LOW on the natural/ universal part of your character and that is the part she was disapproving of, not YOU.

So don't take it personally. When you do develop a high character across the charts not only will you never have to deal with rejection again but when you play it by certain rules (your rules) SHE will be the one who is rejected or disqualifying herself to you and you will have the power by far.

You will always have the last word.

All you really have to have even if you have a low independent and social character/status is a strong connection to your natural ability (esp. if you aren't good looking, poor or are much older).

So if you've been focusing on the social character and using techniques and pick-up lines to develop your character to be able to pick a woman up...just consider working on your natural/ universal character instead; it's what matters so much that a woman will HELP you pick her up by giving the right signals when you do have a high character. You won't even need pick up lines then.

In fact it's not until recently that we actually had pick up lines or a need to study this. You just have to differentiate the forced reality from the natural, timeless reality of attraction and female response and separate out all of what doesn't matter (such as her fickle independent character when it comes to attraction and don't deal with it).

Prevent rejection and isolate the possibility of it by understanding the model magnet system and charts. She isn't rejecting you, she's just placing a perception onto you and judging you initially to see if you meet her expectational response/ideal.

I like to say;

She can't sleep with a man of low (m.m.) character just as much as you can't sleep with an ugly, fat chick.

And if you've taken one for the home team, that's about as often as she slept with a man of low character (despite his looks).

So make sure that you not only communicate the right things but BE the man of the highest character that you can.

It's more important than your social character/status or your own inner game and personality, it's about your connection to the universal power of masculinity and secure inner strength.

The feminine energy in her will rule over her fickle independent behavior and her body just may not be able to resist. This can all happen within a few seconds of her seeing you.

At this point women will be approaching you like crazy and throwing out all kinds of signs because this kind of man who is in touch is so rare these days. The works already cut out for you.

What would it be worth for you to turn the tables, never get rejected and live that kind of lifestyle with women no MATTER your looks, age, income or social status?

It's not a trick. It's real. And it's every man's inheritance but he has to embrace and accept it. I am the messenger because this power is greater than the greatest of any man in history's own independent character.

You don't have to be a superstar pick up character, you just have to be a man of (natural) character and you'll be able to catch women's interest just by walking in the room.

And when you're already spurring attraction in her and she can trust you by your body language, there's less of a chance you'll get rejected anyways.

And if you're living in a dominant reality where she is attracted to you and wants to be plus take the natural approach you can prevent rejection entirely.

By: Rion Williams

Men's Guide To Sex On: How Do You Know She Is Approachable?

Let's face it - having to approach women is a real pain. In fact, it's so much of a pain, if you were to ask the average guy, they'd much rather the woman approach them if she's interested!

It'd be much easier, right? She comes up and it's all taken care of. Let her deal with the idea of rejection. Yes, that would work... in a perfect world.

The truth of the matter is, very few women want to put themselves in the position of being rejected.

That's not to say the occasional assertive woman won't come up and approach a guy. But these are few and far between. Not only that, if you're not her physical type, she won't approach you at all!

So being in the position of approaching women is actually preferable, because you get to pick the girl you want to approach!

The problem comes from the fact that most guys approach the wrong women. They are oblivious to what the woman is thinking and feeling, and whether or not she's opened to be approached at all.

This is the main cause of rejection when approaching.

So you need to start being aware of the signals women give off that let you know they're open to being approached by you. Sometimes these signals are obvious. Other times, they can be very subtle. But either way, you need to know how to spot them.

Women generally act in a far more covert way than us men. They don't come outright and say that they are interested; instead, they send out signals that let us know they are.

If you miss these signals, they'll just think you're not interested, even if you are! So spotting them is crucial.

Look for strong eye contact and smiles in your direction. These are subtle things. Look at if she's playing with her hair when she looks at you, or if she's tilting your head.

Some women will do other things to attract a man's attention that aren't as subtle. Maybe she'll wave at you? Wink at you? Raise an eyebrow? Make an excuse to walk past you or stand near you? Or she might strike up a conversation with one of your friends.

When you spot these signals, you MUST make your move and act on them. Don't wait around expecting her to initiate the contact, because she won't. She's waiting to see if you're confident enough to approach her. If not, she'll just move on to another guy.

It's not that women CAN'T initiate a meeting. If she's not interested in you romantically, she may walk right up, shake your hand, introduce herself and get down to business.

But when it comes to romance, it's a completely different issue, and here's why.

Women associate aggressive men with strong mates. That's not to say they're looking for a juiced-up freak who won't leave them alone! But they are looking for a guy with enough confidence to take the first steps.

If you don't, you'll be written off, it's as simple as that. So instead of waiting around hoping she'll make the first move, take a chance and go after her.

By: Joseph Matthew

Men's Guide To Sex On: First Date Talk - Five Best Ways To Stop Nervousness And Have Fun

   Inwardly you gave yourself a high-five when she said yes to a first date. Now, as the hour approaches, you're feeling a little less elated and a lot more troubled. You don't know her yet - what are you going to talk to her about? Fear not, help is nigh. Here's some advice for first date talk which will have her begging for seconds.

1) Know What Women Enjoy In A Man

    Firstly, women adore a man having a strong identity. So know what you're about: what dreams and goals do you have? What values do you subscribe to? What issues get you all fired up? When you are passionate about something, you are tapping into the second thing that women strongly respond to in a man - the capability to arouse her emotions.

    The best way to stimulate her emotions is by story-telling. This lets you be inventive and perhaps a little off-beat in your communication - which makes you interesting and may appeal to her emotions. For example, when you tell her about the latest movie you've seen, do include descriptions of how it made you feel, what thoughts and emotions came up for you. And be vivid, be alive!

   Another way to get her feelings flowing is by asking her about her favorite music. Get her to tell you how she feels when she hears that certain song; she'll re-live the emotions when doing so - just what you want!

2) Take The Lead

    One thing you certainly don't have to hesitate doing is to take control of the conversation. That's because women just love a confident man. If she's not asking questions, or talking to you about something, or you just feel the conversation is lagging, grasp the opportunity. Show her that you have enough confidence to take the lead. Change the topic - choose something that you are familiar with and can speak about enthusiastically.

3) Don't Drown Her in "Guy Stuff"

   When a conversation starts lagging, it's very tempting for guys to start talking about their hobby or passion. But please do avoid talking about male pastimes unless you already know that she's into them. And even then, watch out that you don't get carried away and overdo things. Women find a man who talks with passion very attractive - but not when it's an endless monologue!

So, if the conversation slows, find a new topic. For example, you could ask her to tell you about her favorite activity...

4) Leisure Pastimes

    All of us, both men and women, normally respond positively and with passion when we're invited to tell about our favorite things. Ask her to tell you about the things she loves. Is it music, or books, movies, sport? Or perhaps occasionally it's just doing nothing, except perhaps to cuddle up, or daydream and fantasize. Use the opportunity to examine mutual likes and dislikes, and find activities that you both enjoy and could use as a basis for future dates.

5) From Pastime To Obsession

    So what does she get high on, if anything? Does she do drugs, or alcohol? Or is it religion, or saving the planet? Whatever it is, you want to know now rather than later! You may have one or two dependencies or "convictions" of your own which you should convey to her - if these are shared, then probably good and well. But do find out about her early rather than later - I mean, could you or would you like to live with a five-in-the-morning snorting habit? Or a thrice daily meditator? When just as she's getting deeply into it the bundle of joy starts yodeling for her mother's breast?

6) Parting Shots

    Apply the five tips above and you should have at least not just an interesting date but also a lot of fun. Do remember, however, to ask a lot of questions - first date talk is (amongst other things) about finding out about each other. So do pay attention to what she says - not only will you learn a lot about her, you'll also pick up cues to ask new questions and lead the conversation in an easy and natural manner.

By: www.winanywoman.com