Friday, December 30, 2011

Mens Guide 2 Sex On: How To Solve Erection Problems

Somewhere along the way, a man will out of the blue begin to have erection problems.

He’ll still have and feel desire for his lady but his penis will simply not cooperate.

He’ll feel embarrassed, humiliated, ashamed, and guilty.

And, his lady will feel just as bad because she now thinks that the man has lost his desire and attraction for her which really rattles her sense of self-worth.

Because it’s going to happen if it hasn’t already happened, let’s explore this phenomenon…

As odd as it may seem, few men seem to recognize the "transition" that happens to them.

For the first part of an average male's life, an erection is an automatic, requires no effort, instantaneous, kind of thing.

For the first part of the average male's life, they think how dumb it is that a woman needs to hear the words first, that she needs to be turned on in her head first, before she is really ready for sex.

And then, the transition happens. All of a sudden, things aren't so instant and automatic.

He thinks something is wrong with him which leads to further anxiety which leads to further erection problems.

At the same time, the lady of the relationship - with all of her own self-doubt - interprets the "malfunction" as something wrong with her.

What we have to consider is that the power of the mind is an amazing thing. National Geographic magazine has reported more than once on "natives" who woke up on a given morning in perfect health, decided that they had been "cursed" during the night and were dead before nightfall - all because of what they believed in their mind.

Given this example of the mind's power, is it any wonder that men have erection problems when they don't understand what's really happening within their own bodies?

Well, the good news is that most men don't have a real problem. Nature has just "turned the tables on him".

In other words, when the transition happens, the average male needs to hear sexual words first. He needs to get turned on in his head first. He needs foreplay. He needs his wife to talk sexy talk to him. He needs his wife to assure him of her love and care for him. He needs his wife to assure him of his value and importance.

He needs all the things that she needed during the first part of HER life - and that he thought was so dumb. He needs all those things that felt like nothing but an obstacle to him getting what he wanted.

The bad news is that if he doesn't recognize and understand this "transition", then he will start using the power of his mind in a negative and destructive way such that he will end up having genuine and real erection problems.

But, by understanding what's really going on and by asking the wife to slow things down a bit, to talk sexy talk, to affirm him, to open up and expose all of her secret sexual thoughts, a man and a woman can have sex that is far more incredible than anything they've experienced prior to the transition.

BY: Calle Zorro

Monday, December 26, 2011

Mens Guide 2 Sex On: Seven Things That Women Want From Men

It’s a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?

The answer isn’t easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It’s enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I’m embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).

So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?

That’s the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that’s what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it’s not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren’t even worth your time.

It’s better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don’t waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don’t fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!

So let’s look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.

1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Naturally, that doesn’t mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it’s important to know how to show value. I’ve got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.

There’s so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don’t feel like you’re there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who’s happy, who lifts the mood of the room?

2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.

I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.

3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she’s being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.

One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…

4. A guy who’s in shape. Okay, I said that you don’t have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn’t mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman’s evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it’s there.

So show her your value by being a guy who’s well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class–who doesn’t like a guy who can kick some ass? You’ll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It’s a win-win situation!

5. Someone who’s not boring. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she’s not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who’s quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they’re dull and not fun to be around.

6. Someone who’s good with her friends. You’ve seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends’ approval, and you get the girl’s approval.

Oftentimes it’s actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl’s group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!

I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren’t up."

Furthermore, he warns that you’re not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she’s alone: "If you wait until she’s by herself to meet her, you’re walking into a situation where she’s going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target’s" approval will be a piece of cake.

This is also where it’s good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.

Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don’t expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don’t expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren’t bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you’re heading there, with goals in life, you’re bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.

I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn’t fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn’t worth your time. As I said above, don’t just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That’s what we men should really want!

I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn’t important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it’s important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you’ll be sure to attract the woman who’s right for you.

Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!


BY:James Brito

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Men's Guide 2 sex On: Creating the Best Singles Profile for Online Dating Sites

Many times the biggest complaint of singles using online dating sites is that when they sift through the hundreds of pictures and profiles, they finally find someone that looks and reads exactly what they have been searching for and now you finally meet them and all you can say is Wow! That person doesn’t look anything like the photo! Don’t let this happen when someone meets you. Online dating sites can be a lot of fun and help you find that person you are looking for, searching for singles with these dating sites offer many advanced search tools for you to use.

Many people find it hard to describe themselves when doing a profile for an online dating site, so don’t feel alone if you experience this feeling. We are going to give you some tips that we believe will help you write an effective dating profile. It is important to keep in mind that people using online dating sites go through many pictures and profiles before they find the one that they want to start communicating with. When writing your online dating profile think of it as you first conversation you have with that person.

Here are some ideas when you are creating your online dating profile:

1. You must post a photo! Many people do not do this and they are really missing out, just like you do, other online daters like to view photo’s and then read their profile descriptions. Don’t miss that special someone just because you don’t have a current photo.

2. Do not post many pictures doing so could overwhelm your daters.

3. Be sure to post a picture of you solo, you do not want daters trying to figure out which one is you.

4. Be specific and very concise with your highlighted information that you write in your profile and you must make sure the things that you write and post are factual. Strive to make your profile interesting and exciting for someone to read, a good straight to the point dating profile will contain around 225 words.

5. If you have children it is important to tell a little bit about them as they are an important part of your life and you want other online daters to know. Maybe give their ages and whether or not they are still at home living with you.

6. Talk about your career and your future goals that you have in place for your career along with what hobbies that you enjoy to do.

7. Be sure to proof read your dating site profile for spelling errors or poor grammar as this can be a real turnoff.

8. In your profile, be sure to let daters know whether you are looking for a stable long term relationship or possible just a date for this weekend.


BY: Troy James

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Mens guide 2 Sex On: How To Recover From A Disastrous First Date

You know the feeling. You close the door behind you and let out a big sigh. It didn't go well. In fact, it was a disaster.

First dates are stressful even when everything goes right. When you or the other person messes up, a couple hours can seem like an eternity. But after the date is over, what you do next can etch the bad experience into your mind or help you overcome it. Here are some things you can do to recover from a disastrous first date.

1. Forgive yourself.

Most of us, when under stress, do things we wouldn't normally do. If you talked too much--or not enough--if you laughed too much, if you overreacted to some statement, or if you behaved in a way that was out of character for you, don't beat yourself up. We're often harder on ourselves than we would be on another person. Show some compassion toward yourself. Acknowledge that you did the best you could under the circumstances. Admit that it's natural to feel nervous on a first date. Remember that nobody is perfect, and if you didn't act like you should have, it isn't the end of the world. Be kind to yourself by not falling into the self-punishment trap. It's important to recognize that negative reaction and cut it off as quickly as possible. If you can't seem to be objective about it, talk it over with a trusted friend.

2. Forgive the other person.

If you're a decent judge of character, you can usually tell when someone was motivated by nervousness or lack of confidence. Just as you shouldn't be too hard on yourself, you shouldn't beat up the other person either. By taking for granted that first dates usually don't go well, you take a big step forward in emotional maturity. Some people approach first dates with the idea that they're something to get over with and put in the past. The anxiety of trying to impress the other person frequently causes something to go wrong. Unless the other person was abusive or rude, they deserve a second chance.

3. Be prepared to move on.

If you did something awkward or that warrants an apology, sending flowers is a polite thing to do. And yes, men love to receive flowers! But be prepared if the other person doesn't wish to see you again, then don't pester them. Unwanted pursuit of another person is stalking. No matter how much you like the other person or are attracted to them, stop it. You'll only embarrass yourself or get in trouble with the law.

4. Don't let the experience affect your self-confidence.

See yourself as a worthwhile, attractive person. You have many good qualities, and just because this person didn't recognize them, that doesn't mean there isn't someone else out there who can. If the other person doesn't want to see you again, they represent only their opinion, not everyone's of the opposite sex. A person who believes in himself or herself exudes an attractiveness that can't be faked.

5. Look for the lesson.

You are a work-in-progress. Wisdom is the sum of knowledge and experience, so take those two and figure out what you can learn from that first date. We all make mistakes, but if we're wise, we won't make the same mistake twice. Make up your mind to do things differently the next time, or if you weren't to blame, decide not to feel guilty when things don't work out. You deserve someone who will appreciate you for who you really are. Resolve, above everything else, to be kind, honest, and authentic. Eventually you'll meet someone with those same qualities, and that's when the real fun begins!

BY: Jack Zavada

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Mens guide 2 Sex On: How Ugly Men Date Beautiful Women

It's truly unfortunate that everyone, at one point in time, has felt unattractive. Reasons may vary, but it's a sad fact that even the most beautiful woman has finds flaws about themselves that made them feel ugly.

For men - their visual nature can often times make them very critical of their own appearance. There is always something that makes us feel as though we are ugly.

Maybe it's the fact that we are too short, or fat, or bald, or old? There are any number of factors that make us feel "unworthy" of the attentions of beautiful women.

But if that was the case - no one would ever be able to attract a woman at all!

In fact, the next time you're out, take a mental note of every guy you see with an attractive girl, and try and appraise whether or not you think that guy's looks are worthy of the girl he's with.

Sure, sometimes you'll find a guy who's with a girl and they are both fine credits to their species. But most of the time, what you'll find is the guys with really hot and appealing women range from "average" to "ugly" in the looks department.

That's because beauty - in men - is the exception, not the standard.

But more than that, men rely on factors OTHER than their looks to help attract women to them.

There are three major factors that most men try and utilize to the best of their ability when attracting new and exciting women to them. They are:

1. Wealth

2. Social Status

3. Personality

Let's go through these one at a time...

The first factor, wealth, is fairly obvious. Women like rich men. Understand that being a "provider" is what this represents. You'll get their attention for sure, and what woman doesn't want to be secure and pampered?

However, there is a big problem with this tactic. First of all, not everyone is rich or wealthy, so this factor is reserved for the few that are. More than that, women often feel like you're trying to "bribe" or "impress" them with your wealth, and because of that, they will treat you more like an ATM machine with feet, rather than a loving, caring, mate.

Understand, there is nothing really wrong with using financial success as a tactic. Be aware of the pitfalls and make sure you actually have the money to do so.

The second factor is social status. Women are very attuned to the social hierarchies of things, so having a "high status" around women definitely makes any man more attractive.

This status comes from holding a certain position of power. It could be an important job, some type of fame, or just the esteem of your peers.

However, one of the difficulties with this is that you need to be able to display social status. You can't just tell someone "I'm a very important person" and have them believe it. They have to get a sense of it themselves, and sometimes your situation is not conducive to communicating this (like meeting a woman on the street for instance. She has no idea who you are!).

Also - not everyone has a high social status. Some people are content with maintaining a medium to low level status. Where does that leave these people?

With the THIRD factor - that of Personality. The thing I like about personality is that it's something EVERYONE can use to attract the kind of women they desire, and it doesn't matter how much money you make or what your social situation is like.

Having an attractive personality is the best way for "average" or "unattractive" men to get women interested in them. Being able to make a woman laugh will turn her on more than a guy with big muscles and a full head of hair.

Understand that women are slaves to their emotions, and your personality is the method by which you trigger emotions inside a woman!

The better your personality, the better you're able to make a woman feel.

And your personality is something that can be changed and cultivated over time. You can make yourself into anything you want to be! It's truly amazing how some "losers" can become "rockstars" in the eyes of their friends and the women they like just by tweaking their personality a little bit.

So how do you do this?

The first step is to really work on your confidence. The more confident you are, the better you're able to display your personality.

Working on your social skills will also help you to be relaxed and have fun around women. This will create new opportunities for attraction.

And learning how to create strong emotional bonds is also the best way there is to get a woman emotionally attached to you.

Learn these three techniques, and you'll be able to gain the heart of any woman you want. It doesn't matter how you look either!

Friday, December 9, 2011

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: How A Man’s Kiss Affects A Woman

Your first kiss will determine if you get an invitation or a handshake

When it comes to kissing, you have to approach it with the right attitude. It is an experience to be enjoyed in and of itself, not just a stepping-stone to sex. Yes, of course we want it to lead to the bedroom and if done correctly, it probably will, but you need to experience and really enjoy the act of kissing. A woman will feel your kiss with great sensitivity and she will know if it is sincere or not. And if you really kiss with purpose, you'll enjoy it and thereby also be good at it.

Kissing not only involves the lips, but the whole body and mind, and, if you do it right, the soul. First know how to enjoy kissing before you can expect a woman to enjoy kissing you. Kissing is a process, not an act.

The way to enjoy kissing is to be sensitive to the closeness and touching of lips and tongues. Focus on your lips and hers. Enjoy the sensation. Let your mind wander with what you are feeling. Women are touchy-feely and it's all about emotions and heady stuff like that and most of us guys don't really understand and really don't want to, but we have to deal with it. And, again, if you go with the flow and catch the feeling, so to speak, you might find yourself on a new plane of pleasure. Kissing is a wonderful experience if you let it be. I’m reminded of a time when a kiss created the setting for a night of bliss that illustrates one of those wonderful kissing experiences.

I was visiting my parents at my boyhood home in Italy on the Mediterranean coast some years ago, the time not being of importance. After hooking up with old time friends and hitting the social scene, it was not long before my eyes met those of a fair young lady. We hit it right off after a brief introductory chat and from there the night flowed like wine at an Italian wedding.

As the night turned into the wee hours of the morning, we strolled as lovers would in an old time movie through the city square. As she twirled in front of me, arms outstretched and hair flowing so beautifully, I gently stepped closer. Seeing the impassioned look on my face, she slowly glided around and leaned into my arms. I pulled her close to me, looked into her eyes, and whispered a sweet compliment. She smiled and I kissed her. The kind of kiss that brought out all her passions and erased her inhibitions. It was a night that she will always remember as I do. I remember all my moments with women, even though there have been hundreds of them.

The beginning to a great night with a beautiful woman can end with a handshake if she does not like the way you kiss. If you want her to spread her legs, you first have to know how to spread her lips.

By: Rudy Casanova