You might have gotten out of a long term relationship, or possibly just haven't had much luck with ladies. You might be uneasy around attractive women. Unfortunately, it's almost always up to men to make the first move, which is a difficult position to be in. The good news is they are several things you can do to make you look like a much cooler person than you are. Making a real connection is great, and some of the strategies below can help you make that.
One of the best things that you can do is have a wingman. A wingman is a friend who's willing to help you meet someone, usually at the expense of his own luck that evening, and if you find someone who's willing to do this for you and is good at it to boot, don't let him go! A wingman can do things for you like walk over and say, "My buddy's been watching you all evening." Essentially, it's his job to talk you up and make you look good and it can make a huge difference.
You will also want to learn a little about body language. Once you know a little bit, the rest tends to come naturally. When a girl is interested in you, she will turn her whole body towards you. If you are chatting a woman up and she's only turning her head to hear what you have to say, you might have found someone who's just not interested. Conversely, if she's into you, you'll find that she turns her back on the rest of the gathering and gives you her full attention. Try speaking a little more softly; if she's into you, she'll lean closer instead of just asking "What?"
You can start a conversation with a compliment, but do be sincere. There's a ton of pick up lines out there, and while they do have their place, they do tend to sound rather canned. I recommend trying to say something that makes her feel special. Complimenting her on something she obviously put a lot of work into is a great place to start. Everyone wants to be recognized for their efforts, and doing something like this is a great way of going about it.
Remember that whether you've spent the last hour flattering her, or you've bought her plenty of drinks that this does not entitle you to a single thing. You can ask whatever you like, but it's important not to sound whiny or desperate; this is simply a sign for her to take off... or call over her big, protective male friends! If someone says she's not interested, shrug, smile, and say that you just wanted her to know that she was beautiful, or that she should enjoy the drink. There's a better than average chance that this will make her reconsider, and even if she doesn't, one of her friends might be picking up the ball where she dropped it!
If the situation moves on to kissing, there are a lot of ways to get a girl to kiss you when you first meet. Be careful though. Surprise kisses can lead to some trouble, including slaps to your face and pissed off male friends. Instead, ask her "May I kiss you?" If she asks why, you can tell her that you think she'd be a great kisser. This works quite well. When you do kiss her, let her dictate where things go. Show some restraint, let her lead, but don't be afraid to let her know you are open to more. She'll appreciate this and will be impressed by your restraint.
As you can see, there are plenty of ways to seduce women; just work with the technique that makes it your own and go into it with some confidence. In a lot of ways, confidence is the name of the game, and you're not going anywhere without it!
One of the best things that you can do is have a wingman. A wingman is a friend who's willing to help you meet someone, usually at the expense of his own luck that evening, and if you find someone who's willing to do this for you and is good at it to boot, don't let him go! A wingman can do things for you like walk over and say, "My buddy's been watching you all evening." Essentially, it's his job to talk you up and make you look good and it can make a huge difference.
You will also want to learn a little about body language. Once you know a little bit, the rest tends to come naturally. When a girl is interested in you, she will turn her whole body towards you. If you are chatting a woman up and she's only turning her head to hear what you have to say, you might have found someone who's just not interested. Conversely, if she's into you, you'll find that she turns her back on the rest of the gathering and gives you her full attention. Try speaking a little more softly; if she's into you, she'll lean closer instead of just asking "What?"
You can start a conversation with a compliment, but do be sincere. There's a ton of pick up lines out there, and while they do have their place, they do tend to sound rather canned. I recommend trying to say something that makes her feel special. Complimenting her on something she obviously put a lot of work into is a great place to start. Everyone wants to be recognized for their efforts, and doing something like this is a great way of going about it.
Remember that whether you've spent the last hour flattering her, or you've bought her plenty of drinks that this does not entitle you to a single thing. You can ask whatever you like, but it's important not to sound whiny or desperate; this is simply a sign for her to take off... or call over her big, protective male friends! If someone says she's not interested, shrug, smile, and say that you just wanted her to know that she was beautiful, or that she should enjoy the drink. There's a better than average chance that this will make her reconsider, and even if she doesn't, one of her friends might be picking up the ball where she dropped it!
If the situation moves on to kissing, there are a lot of ways to get a girl to kiss you when you first meet. Be careful though. Surprise kisses can lead to some trouble, including slaps to your face and pissed off male friends. Instead, ask her "May I kiss you?" If she asks why, you can tell her that you think she'd be a great kisser. This works quite well. When you do kiss her, let her dictate where things go. Show some restraint, let her lead, but don't be afraid to let her know you are open to more. She'll appreciate this and will be impressed by your restraint.
As you can see, there are plenty of ways to seduce women; just work with the technique that makes it your own and go into it with some confidence. In a lot of ways, confidence is the name of the game, and you're not going anywhere without it!
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