This is a very familiar, and common thing to have happen - you find a very attractive young lady, chat her up, and wind up getting her number. You then call her.
Then it happens. Time passes, and no return call. So you try again and leave a message.
Again, no return phone call.
Not wanting to seem "desperate," you play it cool, wait a day or two, and then try calling her one more time.
You try and sound cheery when her voicemail picks up. You remind her who you are, and you ask her - almost BEG her - to call you back.
And again, you hear nothing. Eventually, you give up, another opportunity with a beautiful girl wasted!
So many guys have no idea why this happens. After all, if the girl didn't want to talk to you, why did she give you her number in the first place?
This is what is actually happening here. A woman generally gives out her number in these scenarios for two reasons.
REASON 1: They genuinely like you and want to hear from you again.
REASON 2: She doesn't care to hear from you again, but it's easy (and safe) to blow you off this way without being rude.
If reason #2 is the case, there's very little you can do to get the girl to call you back, because by that time, you've probably "blown" your chance.
But when it comes to reason #1, you're STILL not very lucky!
See - even if a girl genuinely likes you, and wants to call you back, there are any NUMBER of things that could interfere with her doing so.
She could get busy, she could get sick, she could have some sort of crisis with her favorite pet... the list goes on and on.
So what does that mean to you? Are you destined to simply never have a girl you like return your phone call?
Lucky for you, the answer is NO. There are some things you can do to get a girl to call you back.
First things first, you need to make sure you get her REAL number to begin with.
Girls get asked for their number so often by guys, that many women have taken up the practice of giving out fake numbers. So when you ask for her number, you want to be sure she's actually interested enough to give you the real deal.
If the girl is not interested, don't bother asking for her number. Instead, ask for something a little less personal, like her email address or myspace page.
If she is interested, try this trick - ask for her phone, and then call yourself with it so that her number is in your phone, then save that number. This way, you know for a FACT you have her actual phone number.
(And while your at it, you can actually save your number in her phone so she knows its you when you call. This is important because lots of people don't pick up unknown numbers!)
Okay, so you have the number, now what? You need to give her a REASON to return your call!
Too often, guys will just call up a girl and leave a message like "Hey, it's Mike, we met the other night. Call me back. Later!"
How about trying something a bit more URGENT. It could be as simple as:
"Hey, it's Mike from the other night. You're not going to believe what I'm watching right now, its going to crack you up. Call me back!"
Creating an "open" conversation loop and some type of curiosity will help encourage a girl to call you back, because naturally, she'll want to find out what it was that you thought she'd find amusing.
This is just one example - there are lots of different ways for you to create curiosity over the phone. You can even go so far as to recall a conversation you had when you first met, so that she'll remember the feelings she experienced when she was around you.
But most of all - do NOT get frustrated if you don't hear back from her right away! Girls get busy, so you need to change tactics.
Try texting her instead of calling. Ask when she will be available to talk. It's VERY rare that a woman won't have time for a small text reply.
Once you figure out how this all works, getting a girl to call you back is pretty easy.
By: Getting Her to Return That Call
By: Joseph Matthew
Then it happens. Time passes, and no return call. So you try again and leave a message.
Again, no return phone call.
Not wanting to seem "desperate," you play it cool, wait a day or two, and then try calling her one more time.
You try and sound cheery when her voicemail picks up. You remind her who you are, and you ask her - almost BEG her - to call you back.
And again, you hear nothing. Eventually, you give up, another opportunity with a beautiful girl wasted!
So many guys have no idea why this happens. After all, if the girl didn't want to talk to you, why did she give you her number in the first place?
This is what is actually happening here. A woman generally gives out her number in these scenarios for two reasons.
REASON 1: They genuinely like you and want to hear from you again.
REASON 2: She doesn't care to hear from you again, but it's easy (and safe) to blow you off this way without being rude.
If reason #2 is the case, there's very little you can do to get the girl to call you back, because by that time, you've probably "blown" your chance.
But when it comes to reason #1, you're STILL not very lucky!
See - even if a girl genuinely likes you, and wants to call you back, there are any NUMBER of things that could interfere with her doing so.
She could get busy, she could get sick, she could have some sort of crisis with her favorite pet... the list goes on and on.
So what does that mean to you? Are you destined to simply never have a girl you like return your phone call?
Lucky for you, the answer is NO. There are some things you can do to get a girl to call you back.
First things first, you need to make sure you get her REAL number to begin with.
Girls get asked for their number so often by guys, that many women have taken up the practice of giving out fake numbers. So when you ask for her number, you want to be sure she's actually interested enough to give you the real deal.
If the girl is not interested, don't bother asking for her number. Instead, ask for something a little less personal, like her email address or myspace page.
If she is interested, try this trick - ask for her phone, and then call yourself with it so that her number is in your phone, then save that number. This way, you know for a FACT you have her actual phone number.
(And while your at it, you can actually save your number in her phone so she knows its you when you call. This is important because lots of people don't pick up unknown numbers!)
Okay, so you have the number, now what? You need to give her a REASON to return your call!
Too often, guys will just call up a girl and leave a message like "Hey, it's Mike, we met the other night. Call me back. Later!"
How about trying something a bit more URGENT. It could be as simple as:
"Hey, it's Mike from the other night. You're not going to believe what I'm watching right now, its going to crack you up. Call me back!"
Creating an "open" conversation loop and some type of curiosity will help encourage a girl to call you back, because naturally, she'll want to find out what it was that you thought she'd find amusing.
This is just one example - there are lots of different ways for you to create curiosity over the phone. You can even go so far as to recall a conversation you had when you first met, so that she'll remember the feelings she experienced when she was around you.
But most of all - do NOT get frustrated if you don't hear back from her right away! Girls get busy, so you need to change tactics.
Try texting her instead of calling. Ask when she will be available to talk. It's VERY rare that a woman won't have time for a small text reply.
Once you figure out how this all works, getting a girl to call you back is pretty easy.
By: Getting Her to Return That Call
By: Joseph Matthew
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