Mens Guide To Sex On: Reading Sexual Body Language

     This post I want to talk about body language. To be more specific, sexual body language. We all know there are signals women give off to let a man know she's interested but sometimes we aren't sure of what she's interested in. So this post I want to talk about a few body signals that are specifically to say she's thinking about sex. It is important to recognize these signals as soon as possible because when it come to sex the window of opportunity is very small. If you snooze you loose. Therefore recognizing these signals and acting on them quickly is imperative for success.

      The first sign is physical contact. When a woman is touching you she is trying to convey that she is comfortable with you and at the same time trying to find out if and how comfortable you are with her. So you definitely want to touch her every time she touches you. Now in a bar situation she is doing this it's not only letting you know how she feels about you and seeing how you feel about her, there is also a let every other woman in the bar know this one is mine message being delivered. She isn't doing that unless she's making plans. Also when she is exploring your body by touching your arms, chest and back she is trying to relay a message. Another physical contact sign is sharing food. If she sips your drink or offers a sip of hers, that's a sign that she's probably considering it. That is a way of getting intimate very quickly. Maybe on a date she starts sharing her food or stealing yours she is trying to send a little bit of a hint.

      The next series of signs are about what she says. Compliment in general are signs she's into you. Compliments on your body parts are a sign she wants you. Things like chest or butt are her way of telling you the interests are sexual. Another strong hint is her bring up sex. Women rarely bring it up unless it's really on their mind. Now be careful with this assumption. Women do like to dick tease from time to time and this could be her way of doing it. Even then, they don't usually waste time dick teasing a guy they don't find attractive in the first place (unless she is trying to feel better about herself). A big conversation sign is talking about an ex lover or give detailed stories of past sexual experiences. She is definitely trying to tell you something.

      The last group of signals are relative to her. Things like sitting with her inner thy exposed. Also nervously playing with her clothes and unfastening buttons are a very blatant sign that anyone can recognize. Also stealing chances to take glimpse at your crotch, butt or chest is a dead give away. There is some thing called triangular gazing, where a woman looks at one eye then the other then the mouth and keeps doing this while talking to you. Doing that is a huge sign of sexual tension. Flaring nostrils and dilated pupils also suggest a that she wishes a little more was going on.

       Now those are a few signals to look for to see if a woman is sexually aroused. Figuring exactly when a woman is ready for sex is a trick that can be hard to measure. I hope this post is helpful in helping you with such a difficult but necessary task.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Setting Up Booty Calls

    This post is about booty calls. Not to be confused with the friends with benefits situation, the booty call is strictly a call come over and fuck type situation. Today we are going to talk about some of the pros and cons and how to properly set them up. There are many benefits to booty calls. Easy sex being the biggest one. It doesn't stop you from dating and it makes it easier to hold out for sex when you are dating but there are a lot of setbacks as well. To be honest there are a lot more setbacks than there are pros. For one you better believe some one will catch feeling and screw it up. That is usually the female. Another drawback is some one usually says something stupid and make the other feel a little weird about it. That' is usually the male. Respect, talent, and complications are the issues when it comes to booty calls. The trick is to find some one who doesn't have enough respect for you as a boyfriend so she doesn't want more than just sex, but the sexual chemistry is so good that it's worth the complications. I know it sounds easier said than done but all in all, if certain rules are in place and you can find a willing participant it can be a really fun sexual option.

      Lets start the talk with setting them up. The first thing you need is a willing participant. The best target for this is an ex. You want one that broke it off with you and isn't angry with you. If she left you for money reason, then that's perfect. They make great targets for several reasons. One they don't have any hang ups about sleeping with you. Second they know how you like it and vice verse. Third it will be easy to set up this kind of situation with her. Just call her kind of late one night and ask what she's up to. (You don't want to do it too late when she might be sleeping) Just say you was in bed thinking about her. When she ask why, or what you were thinking, just have a story of when you two were together sexually. Trust me when I say she will get the hint. After the romp, say to her it doesn't need to be a one time thing. Then explain and set some ground rules. Another great target is older women. They are usually horny as hell and they don't usually take younger men seriously as long term partners anyway. You should wait until the relationship turns to her starting to suggest just getting to the nitty gritty instead of hanging out. That's when to strike and make the suggestion. Not the first time she does it but the second or third, preferably the third. After the third time is when you want to try it. Just call her kind of late one night and after activities, say you have begun to notice a pattern and why beat around the bush. Another great option is a female friend that is always changing boyfriends. Just seduce her one night and say how fun it was afterward. If she doesn't act weird about it later. In a couple of weeks do it again, then make the suggestion. If you were any good she will go for it. Be careful though, you could mess up the friendship and she might just be doing it to get something deeper a little later. You might want to do it a couple times before trying it. A friend's ex that they don't care about is probably a good target for this as well. Especially if she hates the friend and wants to get back at him. Just clear it with the friend first.

   Now once you have your participant, you need to set some ground rules so that it works out for everyone. First a few for the both of you. I would start with a sleep over hour. This one is what decides if anyone stays over. You pick an hour ( it should be constant ) that the activities are done, if it's before that particular hour then parties go their separate ways . If it's after that hour then it's stay the night. Both parties in mind should keep this in mind before making the call. Another suggestions, is to use texting codes and not actually call. Something could be said to turn the other off and that blows the whole thing. Just something simple like 911 or 69 with a respond text of E.T.A. 9pm or whatever. Just something to ask and say yes or no. The last tip is to limit the amount the each can make each week or month. So that no one feels like they are obligated to be the others sex slave in waiting. You want to present it as a release in time of drought between lovers, not a permanent solution. Now those are just a few suggestion for both parties. As for suggestions directed to just you, I would suggest don't ask about her intimate life outside of you. Also don't share anything about yours to her either. You don't want her thinking to much or reanalyzing the situation. Also try to keep the sex to a minimum. You want everyone to orgasm but you do need to try to eliminate marathon sex. Unless she is really into it. Make sure the sex is great and mix it up from time to time. Don't turn her down unless you absolutely have to. Women get petty and could end up playing games with you.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Getting Out Of The Friend Zone

     We have all been there, the dreaded friend zone. At some point in time in our life there has been some girl that we wanted romantically is some capacity. It doesn't work out that way because she saw us as just a friend. Now what makes one just a friend and not a lover in a woman's eyes differs with each girl, with each guy, and with each situation. Now to be honest, it is usually a case of the guy not being able to create a spark. You obviously made a connection or you wouldn't be a friend in the first place. At some point you either failed to create a spark or you turned her off and you didn't creep her out. Women are selfish creatures and bigger perverts than we are. They usually look at men as sexual potential in some shape or form or they don't have much use for us. So if you're in the friend zone, at the bare minimum she see you as some one to at least boost her ego from time to time. So the good news is you can get out of the friend zone. Which brings me to the point of this post. Today we are talking about how to get out of the friend zone.

       Now to get out of the friend zone, we must first figure out why you are there in the first place. Also you may need to find out if she knows you like her in that way. If she doesn't know it could be just a matter of making your feeling known. In that situation, there is a possibility the only reason you're in the friend zone is because she doesn't think she can get anything else. In which case, shame on you for not have enough balls to make a move. Now to get back to why most are in the friend zone, like I said before women are very selfish creatures and there is a chance she has you in the friend zone to use you. It's the buy the cow, milk for free rule. For her you are too needy and desperate and doesn't respect you enough to be her man, but you still have uses. You can boost her ego for when she is feeling down after a break up. You are good for free drinks when at the bar or some one to pick her up at the airport. To be honest you can even move up to booty call if she is desperate enough and no one else is available. In that case, don't expect it regularly because she knows you are hoping for more and she doesn't want to encourage you. She only does it because she knows she can do it and not feel like a slut later. Unlike some stranger she met in a bar and hopes to never see again to avoid the walk of shame or even worse, an ex that might think he's still has some hold on her because of it, with you there is a level of control. Then there is the case of she isn't using you but she is just being nice to a very good person that deserves respect. She isn't a bitch and understands that you're a nice guy that will make some girl happy, just not her. She would love to hook you up with one of her friends. Then there is the case of which she just sees you as very bad boyfriend material. This situation is usually means you have a personal issue she doesn't want to deal with (finances, past treatment of women, culture). When you figure out which one you are, then you can figure out what to do about it.

     Once you figure why you're in the friend zone, you need to decide if getting out is worth it. You need to decide this for several reasons. First reason is once you get out, it will be damn near impossible to go back to the friendship you had. So if you have been friends for years it might be in your best interest to remain just friends. Now if you are friends just so she can get the benefits of a boyfriend without the commitment, then you need to ask yourself is this thekind of person you want as a partner. The fact that she feels it's OK to use anyone for any reason says a lot about her as a person. You really shouldn't judge people but when you are talking about your significant other, you really don't have a choice. The last reason to ask yourself is it worth it is because you may have to change something about yourself. It is never a good idea to do something your not comfortable with or pretend to be something your not to impress some one else. In other words, the purpose of this paragraph is to say it might be better to move on to the next girl if this one won't appreciate you as is.




      Remember this there is a difference between changing who you are and bettering yourself. Which is what needs to happen. You are trying to get your crush to see you in a different light. We all have flaws. There are things in all of us that could use some improvement. I am suggesting that you present yourself in a different light. So first get healthier. Try eating better and getting in better shape. Maybe even the opposite, if you're that gym rat in great shape who gets a lot of girls and your crush sees you as shallow or full of yourself. In which case you need to show her that you aren't as bad as she thinks. Then work on being more productive. Getting thing accomplished that you wanted to but always put it off. Work on being less emotional or becoming more spiritual. Just try to improve yourself in any way that you see is better for you. After you have demonstrated the new you. This is when you want to make your move. Ask her why you are in the friend zone. If she has seen the improvements and has changed her mind, she will probably say I don't know. Then you should suggest maybe you two should work on changing it. If it is a teasing no, I'm not sure or anything that resembles a hesitant no, then it has worked. She just wants a little effort. Then get her out on a friendly date and create some sexual tension. If it's a definite no with a legitimate reasons, then you got a little more work to do. Also try dating some one else and make sure your crush knows about it. Ask her advice on what to do for the new girl. You want to give the impression that the new girl is getting spoiled. That's the thing about women, they hate to miss out on a good thing. If they don't want it, they don't want anyone else to have it either. They are competitive and a little controlling. Another girl in her position of controlling you is a little threatening. Now if that doesn't work that usually means there is just some one else in your way. In which case you just need to be patient. Cause like I said before women look at men as sexual or she doesn't have any use for you. So you're just waiting on your night of her being desperate and want to feel better. Then you knock her socks off in the sack and you're in. Now those are the ways to get out of the friend zone. So stop wasting time and go collect that girl you've been crushing on.

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