Mens Guide To Sex On: The Texting Code

     With all of today's modern advances, communication has become a bit of a challenge. With emails and texting being the main form of communication for so many women, phone calls and love letters have fallen to the same level as the telegraph and smoke signals. Throw in the pop culture abbreviations, picture, and punctuation, it could leave even the smartest of scholars confused. So this post is for figuring out the texting code. There are good texts and bad texts, it all depends on how you look at it. This post we are going to give you the inside track on the texts she sends and what they mean. What she texts will give you an idea of how she feels about you and the situation. How you respond to those texts will make or break you. Women are constantly trying to figure us out, so they use texts to do it. Text are a good way because they can focus on the words you use instead of just what you said. In any event, I don't see why we can't do the same thing. With that being said, lets get to it.

   Lets start with some of the bad texts because those are the easiest and there aren't that many. If she doesn't care, she won't waste a lot of time texting you. If she makes a really stupid excuse why she can't hang out (playing with my dog) then she thinks you're a lowlife. Talking about other guys with you isn't good either. They hide other men from other guys they believe have potential. If she doesn't text you before her birthday or right after her birthday then you have messed up somewhere. One word texts are really bad. Women really hate them. So if she gives you one then she really doesn't care. Another sign she doesn't care anymore is bad spelling and grammar. The older a woman gets the more she cares about that sort of thing. If texting is her main source of communication, the more she tries to communicate the more she like you. The less she communicates the less she cares. Know if she has a lot of guy friends and everyone gets texts then her texting you could her just being friendly. Other than that, the more texts the better.

   As for the good things in texting, there are a lot more. If she texts you a lot then she probably likes you. Like I said before, the more text the more she likes you. Forty or more texts is obvious sign that yes she is into you. Putting a lot of XOXO's, smiley faces and exclamation point are all great signs she is into you. Texting comments on a string that ended hours ago is another sign. She is definitely into you if she send these long winded texts, being goofy, or talking about random things. Pictures with her in them are for you and a dead give away that she like you. If they are with her friends it doesn't necessarily mean anything. When they are with you then she is trying to connect and share with you. Mentioning bed, shower, or getting dressed is her way of flirting. If she mentions activities, she is trying to get you to ask her out. Texts that suggest she is checking up on you or asking for advice there is a very good chance she is crushing on you. Those situation is just her trying to make a connection. Women need to make a connection with a man to have anything intimate. Late night texts is a sign she likes you. At the bare minimum it's an attempt at a booty call but it a sign that she at least trusts you. Sending texts about her looks is her fishing to see what you like about her. Saying things like I love you or care about you are ballsy and she wouldn't say it unless she wants some moves made.

  
  Now those are a lot of the texting codes and their meaning. So pay attention to what she text's you. Women that do a lot of texting give away everything without even knowing it. So don't let these things confuse you. So here is where this post comes to an end. So go send some texts.

 

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Creating Sexual Tension

     Building sexual tension is probably the most important part in seducing a woman. It's what will get her in the position you want her in. Whether it's for a relationship or something purely sexual. Woman are a lot more like us than we want to admit. When it comes to sex and relationships, there are very few differences and there are a lot of exceptions that make those differences go away. The three main differences in us are options, frustrations, and opportunity. We all have all three. The difference is the reasons why. Women's options are limited because of connection and spark. The amount of available guys that are capable of making a connection and creating a spark are few and far between. So that creates a lack of opportunity, therefore a certain level of frustration develops. For men figuring out how to connect and creating the sparks is the problem. That is the reason for our frustration. There are no limits to opportunity because we are the main one's responsible for initiating contact. So every woman we pass is an opportunity. Which brings me to the point of this post, if you can make a connection, she is hoping you can make a spark. Sexual tension is that spark and this post is going to tell you how to do that.

          To build sexual tension there are a few things you want to remember. The first thing is to be relaxed. If you're relaxed it will make it easier for her to relax. Women are very in tune to your body language. That's how they do most of their communication. Not being relaxed can give off any number of bad vibes. That is the advantage bad boys, players, and even married men have over the average guy. They are already getting sex, so they're not desperate for it. They always have a very calm and laid back demeanor towards sex. They're just looking for the next conquest. If they don't score, they have something lined up as back up just in case what they are going for doesn't work out. Which brings me to moods, moods are contagious. Ever go to a great party in a bad mood and stay more than two hours? Do you leave that party in a bad mood? How about a funeral of some one you barely knew, are you sad when you get there? Are you sad when you leave? This is what I'm talking about. The mood gets reflected. This is what you need to do in building sexual tension. Not only do you need to do it but you need to do it properly as well. So not being relaxed is the first huge mistake most guys make. Not being relaxed gives off a lack of confidence. Another mistake is getting too flirty or sexual too early. That gives a needy desperate vibe, or maybe even creepy, also not good. Waiting too long to get sexual or flirty as well makes a few problems. Women are bigger perverts than we are ( Social etiquette are the only reason they don't make it known ). So in their mind, because of the many men hitting on them once they get in their head that you are not a sexual option, it's on to the next one. Simply put, be confident and relaxed from the beginning or you're defeated before you even start.

   Women are emotional creatures. So to make a connection is easy. Talk about emotional topics. Family, friends, and future plans are all emotional safe topics .The trick is not sounding generic. Being generic puts you in a position of counting on your looks. If you're really good looking, she may be willing to let you get away with it a little more than most guys but you will get old fast. You want to stick out. Being generic doesn't make you stick it, it makes you look like every other guy before you. When you seem different than the other guys she has been talking to, she will want to try and figure out why you are different. That's how mysterious factor kicks in. Mystery is very important when creating sexual tension. She has a pretty good idea on why you are talking to her but until the flirting starts, there is a level of uncertainty and a woman's insecurity intensifies it five times. So as long as you're a mystery, she will probably keep talking to you. So being a little ambiguous about your intentions at first is in your best interest. Now these are the first stage of building sexual tension. As you continue to talk to her, start to use using subliminal messages. By simply using key words, you can stimulate certain emotions. Words like passion, love, tight, position and yes. These are all words that have a sexual undertone that if use innocently enough can and probably will get her sexual juices flowing. The trick is to use them innocently without coming off sexually or even flirty. If you do this properly, you will peak her interests.
    

     Now this brings me to the final portion of creating sexual tension, reflecting the mood. Once you have peaked her interests, you want to start thinking about her in a sexual way. Maybe imagine her in the positions you want to get her in. Think about how you want to kiss her. Before you say something to her, say in your head ( not out loud ) “I really want to tear your ass up but,” then say what you really was going to out loud. The trick is to change the mood in her mind by changing the mood in yours. Trust me when I say she will pick up on the vibe. Now if she isn't responding go back to respectful and ambiguous immediately. You can always try again later. If you are doing this and she is responding or even just still there, means you have done it right. Then it's just a matter of flirting. Flirt without coming off as cheesy, and she is yours to do with as you will. With that, I end this post and send you forward to conquer.

Mens Guide To Sex On: Getting Out Of The Friend Zone

     We have all been there, the dreaded friend zone. At some point in time in our life there has been some girl that we wanted romantically is some capacity. It doesn't work out that way because she saw us as just a friend. Now what makes one just a friend and not a lover in a woman's eyes differs with each girl, with each guy, and with each situation. Now to be honest, it is usually a case of the guy not being able to create a spark. You obviously made a connection or you wouldn't be a friend in the first place. At some point you either failed to create a spark or you turned her off and you didn't creep her out. Women are selfish creatures and bigger perverts than we are. They usually look at men as sexual potential in some shape or form or they don't have much use for us. So if you're in the friend zone, at the bare minimum she see you as some one to at least boost her ego from time to time. So the good news is you can get out of the friend zone. Which brings me to the point of this post. Today we are talking about how to get out of the friend zone.

       Now to get out of the friend zone, we must first figure out why you are there in the first place. Also you may need to find out if she knows you like her in that way. If she doesn't know it could be just a matter of making your feeling known. In that situation, there is a possibility the only reason you're in the friend zone is because she doesn't think she can get anything else. In which case, shame on you for not have enough balls to make a move. Now to get back to why most are in the friend zone, like I said before women are very selfish creatures and there is a chance she has you in the friend zone to use you. It's the buy the cow, milk for free rule. For her you are too needy and desperate and doesn't respect you enough to be her man, but you still have uses. You can boost her ego for when she is feeling down after a break up. You are good for free drinks when at the bar or some one to pick her up at the airport. To be honest you can even move up to booty call if she is desperate enough and no one else is available. In that case, don't expect it regularly because she knows you are hoping for more and she doesn't want to encourage you. She only does it because she knows she can do it and not feel like a slut later. Unlike some stranger she met in a bar and hopes to never see again to avoid the walk of shame or even worse, an ex that might think he's still has some hold on her because of it, with you there is a level of control. Then there is the case of she isn't using you but she is just being nice to a very good person that deserves respect. She isn't a bitch and understands that you're a nice guy that will make some girl happy, just not her. She would love to hook you up with one of her friends. Then there is the case of which she just sees you as very bad boyfriend material. This situation is usually means you have a personal issue she doesn't want to deal with (finances, past treatment of women, culture). When you figure out which one you are, then you can figure out what to do about it.

     Once you figure why you're in the friend zone, you need to decide if getting out is worth it. You need to decide this for several reasons. First reason is once you get out, it will be damn near impossible to go back to the friendship you had. So if you have been friends for years it might be in your best interest to remain just friends. Now if you are friends just so she can get the benefits of a boyfriend without the commitment, then you need to ask yourself is this thekind of person you want as a partner. The fact that she feels it's OK to use anyone for any reason says a lot about her as a person. You really shouldn't judge people but when you are talking about your significant other, you really don't have a choice. The last reason to ask yourself is it worth it is because you may have to change something about yourself. It is never a good idea to do something your not comfortable with or pretend to be something your not to impress some one else. In other words, the purpose of this paragraph is to say it might be better to move on to the next girl if this one won't appreciate you as is.




      Remember this there is a difference between changing who you are and bettering yourself. Which is what needs to happen. You are trying to get your crush to see you in a different light. We all have flaws. There are things in all of us that could use some improvement. I am suggesting that you present yourself in a different light. So first get healthier. Try eating better and getting in better shape. Maybe even the opposite, if you're that gym rat in great shape who gets a lot of girls and your crush sees you as shallow or full of yourself. In which case you need to show her that you aren't as bad as she thinks. Then work on being more productive. Getting thing accomplished that you wanted to but always put it off. Work on being less emotional or becoming more spiritual. Just try to improve yourself in any way that you see is better for you. After you have demonstrated the new you. This is when you want to make your move. Ask her why you are in the friend zone. If she has seen the improvements and has changed her mind, she will probably say I don't know. Then you should suggest maybe you two should work on changing it. If it is a teasing no, I'm not sure or anything that resembles a hesitant no, then it has worked. She just wants a little effort. Then get her out on a friendly date and create some sexual tension. If it's a definite no with a legitimate reasons, then you got a little more work to do. Also try dating some one else and make sure your crush knows about it. Ask her advice on what to do for the new girl. You want to give the impression that the new girl is getting spoiled. That's the thing about women, they hate to miss out on a good thing. If they don't want it, they don't want anyone else to have it either. They are competitive and a little controlling. Another girl in her position of controlling you is a little threatening. Now if that doesn't work that usually means there is just some one else in your way. In which case you just need to be patient. Cause like I said before women look at men as sexual or she doesn't have any use for you. So you're just waiting on your night of her being desperate and want to feel better. Then you knock her socks off in the sack and you're in. Now those are the ways to get out of the friend zone. So stop wasting time and go collect that girl you've been crushing on.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Why Older Women Are Better

     This post is dedicated to older women. Older women can be a relief from younger women in so many ways. Younger women can only compare physically and even that is a matter of opinion. Take that out of the equation, and it's like fine wine. It only gets better with age. Then it's a matter of how much can you drink before you get drunk. To explain all the reasons why an older woman might be a better romantic option for whatever intimate needs you require would take a book, but because there are so many it will not take long to make my point. So lets stop wasting time and get into it shall we?

     First of all, younger women want attention. Older women want respect. Her sex appeal comes from how she carries herself. Even if she has a nice body, her mind is what will get you wanting to tear her clothes off. Simply put she knows the difference between being sexy and looking slutty. Sexually she is young enough to do it often and old enough to do it well. They are at their sexual peak and will want it more than you do, and they knows exactly how to get it from you. They also have at least a decade of practice under her belt to make it worth your wild. Also depending on her experience, she is probably more willing to experiment. Younger women are usually very indecisive. They have no idea what they want. Even when they get what they think they want, they usually change their mind after they get it. To take it one step further, when they loose it (or get rid of it) they want it back when they see some one else with it. Older women know what they want and go for it when they find it. Which brings me to the next benefit, all women have a certain amount insecurities but older women handle them so much better. In other words a lot less games. They get to the point. When it comes to communication, I can't tell you how helpful this is. She is going to tell you what you need to know and when you need to know it. She isn't going to bitch at you, scream at you or yell at you and there is no hinting. She is going to talk to you directly a put it bluntly. They are also patient and once committed They are willing to work with you. They will put in the effort that you put in. The young girls are not patient and when it's not going the way she likes it, they usually bail. There is a higher level of responsibility with older woman that you can't find with younger ones. You can depend on her, even lean on her. She will depend on you a lot less and wont depend on you for things you can't provide. Young girls use the things you can't provide as an excuses to get rid of you. Now the best part about older women compared to younger women is their honesty. They will like you for more genuine reasons. It won't be anything other than you being you for he being there. She won't be there for your money, your car, or your status. Your personality is the only thing that can and will win her heart.

   Now there are some common traits and qualities that usually apply to all women regardless of their age. They all want fun, have a sense of adventure, lust for life, and an appreciation for a real man. The difference from the older woman compared to the younger one in these areas are, when it comes to fun an older woman knows how to have fun no matter who she's with. Even if you aren't her cup of tea, she will find common ground as oppose to a younger one who expects you to bring it to her. Also an older woman usually try to make sure you are having as much fun as she is. Her sense of adventure isn't limited to what she wants to do and going to what is considered popular. She is looking for the right travel companion, not just looking for who can afford to take her. She is helping with the bill. Her lust for life is different because of her experiences. They see life differently than their younger counterpart. So she is so much more emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially put together. She doesn't need anything, it's just a matter of what she wants. To get her all you need is you. What you bring to the table determines how long you stay. Which brings me to liking real men. Younger woman have a preconceived idea of what a man is or at least should be. When you don't measure up to it, she holds it against you. Older women realize that there are all kinds of men in this world and the fun is trying to figure out which one you are and experiencing what you have to offer. Turn her on and she will do her best to give you the experience of your life.

 

    I could go on and on about how an older woman are better than younger ones but like I said before that's a book, not a blog post. To get one just be yourself and let her decide how much she want to deal with you. They are very smart and can spot bullshit a mile away. So honesty with a direct approach is the best policy when approaching them. They will let you know very early if you're being successful. Just be confident, sincere, and attentive then see what's up. Any event I hope I have convinced you enough to at least go and see if I'm right.

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Tips For Nice Guys

      This post is for the nice guys. The guys that deserve everlasting love but doesn't get it because he doesn't excite potential mates. There is a saying, nice guys finish last. Unfortunately when it comes to dating that is true more often than not. You would think with all the complaining women do about men, a nice guy would be fought over like Brad Pitt but the truth is nice guys have the worst time when it comes to dating. To be honest the problem for the most part is just women are immature when it comes to romance. Instead of simply settling for the guy that love respects and treats her well, they spend 10 to 15 years being abused by bad boys in hopes of taming the beasts before appreciating the good men that like them and treats them well from the beginning. That's here nor there. You are not a bad boy and you don't have to be one. So this post is going to talk about problems of being a nice guy and what to do about it.

     The problem with nice guys is simple, they are usually patient, kind, understanding, and cooperative. These things are a problem for several reasons. Women think way too much into things. They look at certain traits the wrong way and come to ridiculous conclusions. Also they can be selfish and a little manipulative. With that being said, here are some don't do s when dealing with women. Don't be her doormat. If you're just friends, then stay just friends. Treat her like one of the guys friends and limit favors to what an average guy friend would get. Don't buy her drinks, pick her up from the airport or drop off her dry cleaning. Those are things for her boyfriend. They don't give you romance because they don't have to. It's the same as buy the cow, milk for free rule. Nice guys tend to be overly nice in the hope of impressing them and win them over. Which brings me to my next don't. Being overly cooperative is another big no. They see your cooperation as you're too eager to please and a sign of desperation. So don't inconvenience yourself for her. Especially if she knows you like her. There is more than a 50% chance that is the reason she asked, to use you. To sum it all up, women need to date you and discover that you are patient, kind, understanding, and cooperative, rather than see those thing upfront. If it's too early, they wont see them that way. They will see you as needy, spineless, feminine and pathetic. You are not a challenge and not worth their time. At best she will consider you after she has had enough of being used and abused by the bad boys. In the mean time she will just view you as some one to boost her ego.

    Now here are a few things to do that will help our cause. First is don't be afraid to put a woman in the friend zone. Once she gets there keep her there and don't let her out without earning it. When she earns it, make her earn her way out slowly. She goes from friend to friend with benefits or booty call. Then move her to something very casual, to then something more meaningful. Second is to limit the amount of attention you give women. Let her wonder how much you are into her. She will assume you are naturally but her insecurities will mess with her and look for clues. So don't give her any. Third is to set boundaries and stick to them. Women will push their luck with you to see what she can get away with. Make sure when she does, she knows early where she stands. Fourth when you do something for her, make sure it is appreciated and reciprocated later. Ask for something small if you have to just to see that it is reciprocated. If she cant do it then, then ask for something again later to give her second shot but if she doesn't do it then cut it loose and put her in the friend zone. In other words make sure you get the effort you're putting in. Fifth pick nice girls or at least mature who have had enough of the bullshit games and will appreciate your kindness. You shouldn't have to play these foolish childish games with them and the right girl is usually the one that realizes that and doesn't do it. Lastly but most importantly have confidence. Remember that as a nice guy you are the man of her dreams, she is just too immature and inexperienced to see it. Know you don't need them you want them. As long as you have that attitude you will elude confidence and be fine.

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: The Very Biggest Dating Mistakes

    Dating can be a challenging venture. Getting a date is challenging enough, getting a second date can be even more challenging. Knowing what to do is very hard. Lets face it women can be picky, difficult, and confusing. They don't give clues on what to do and they punish you if you get it wrong. Now what is the right thing to do differs from girl to girl, but there are some basic don't that you can apply to most women that will help your chances for a second date. With that being said, here are few dating mistakes that everyone makes that you should avoid.

Tip 1: Don't Talk Too Much.

     They say women like to talk. The truth is they like to talk while you listen. The biggest problem with talking to much is you run the risk of saying the wrong thing. It doesn't take much to turn most women off. You mention your into something that she doesn't like or express an opinion that she disagrees with strongly, you're toast. Just giving too much information can sabotage you. On a third or fourth date you may get away with it, but on the first is suicide. Another problem with talking a lot is how you come off. There are many different ways to come off by talking a lot and most of them are bad. If she isn't really into what you're talking about can come off as boring. Then there is the other way. You could have a very interesting life with much to tell but too much and you come off full of yourself. Another bad thing to avoid by talking a lot is you don't want to look like a know it all. Now there are exceptions to the rule. Shy women usually like you to talk more but you do want her to do most of it. So do yourself a favor and keep it simple. If he want to know something, trust me when I say she will ask.

Tip 2: Don't Misrepresent Yourself

  Honesty is very important to women. So being genuine is very much in your best interests. It is hard to establish a connection with someone you don't trust. therefore embellishing isn't a good idea. Depending on the situation it is better to downplay and be a pleasant surprise than to exaggerate and be a disappointment. Most of the men they come across are full of it anyway, so the look for lies. Also if you brag about too much and make yourself seem too good to be true, she may start to think you're just that, to good to be true. You want to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Don't say it if you can't deliver. The main reason you don't want to exaggerate is because it's not necessary. If she is on a date with you then she has already seen something in you and is just hoping you don't fuck it up more than she is looking for you to convince her to move forward. Simply put, be yourself and be humble.

Tip 3: Don't Be Cheap

     Being frugal on a first date is always a bad idea. This is one thing most women look for. For them, this says a lot about you. It say's how much you value money, how much you value her, and how generous you are. So you don't want to ask to go dutch. You want to avoid fast food restaurants, walks in the park, even having her meet you instead of picking her up may hurt you. I'm not saying these are instant killers as much as I'm saying at some point during the date you need to spend some money. You don't have to break the bank and get expensive. Just don't be dirt cheap.

Tip 4: Don't Have Sex On The First Date.

      This is important because of respect. It maybe tempting and hard to say no but it does increase your chances for a second date. If you want more dates or even just establishing a relationship respect does come into play. She will respect you more if you refrain from sex immediately. It will say a lot about you and you will come off as different than most guys. Don't just flat out say no, otherwise she will feel rejected. Just explain to her that you like her and it is important to you that she respects you. Sometimes a woman may not be into you but she does find you attractive and decide to use the opportunity to just get off,. In which case you probably should just get the sex because you're not going to get another date. If that isn't the situation, to see her again you are better off saying no.



       Now those are four really important tips for a first date. I'm not saying that not making those mistake guarantee a second date I'm just saying they are a huge help. Not making those mistakes combine with showing her a good time should get you another date. So keep them in mind the next time you're out with a woman you really like.

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Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Knowing When To Go In For The Kiss

    

      How to know when to go for a kiss can be a difficult thing to figure out. Once a guy asked me how do I get a girl to kiss me. Well it's like this, you don't get girls to kiss you. You kiss girls. As far as they are concerned they don't kiss boys, they got kissed. Women love to kiss, especially if a guy is good at it. Depending on how good looking you are, you can probably just walk up to random women and start kissing them. You would be surprised on how many women would sleep with a guy just to keep the kissing coming. You would even be more surprised on how many women won't sleep with a guy just because he isn't good at kissing. The only reason you're not allowed to start kissing them immediately on a date is because she's worried about what you will think of her. So don't underestimate the importance of kissing when it comes to women and sex.

    If you go on a date with a girl, she is thinking in her mind “I wonder if he is going to kiss me or try and kiss me.” Even if she doesn't kiss on the first date, she probably at least wants you to try. There is a better than 50% chance she wouldn't be on the date at all if she hasn't thought about kissing you. There are those occasions where they give mercy dates just to be nice and they have no intentions of ever kissing you. Those situations are very rare, most women aren't doing that and if that's the case, you will recognize that situation very early. If you're date ends in two hours and / or in the middle of the day, that is usually the situation. If you're not sure, a phone call afterward will clear it up. In any event if she is on that date, she is expecting a kiss at the end of it. Now she may change her mind by the end of it but when she first got there she was expecting a kiss or at least an attempt.

   The kiss for women is the ultimate reassurance that you like them. When you don't try and kiss them, their insecurities start to mess with them and they ask “what is wrong with me? Does he think I'm gross? Why isn't he trying to make a move?” So not trying to kiss can and probably will turn her off. Now that all of that is out of the way, it brings me to the point of this post. Knowing when to try for that kiss.

      Well first sign is the licking or touch of the lips. When she does that she is definitely think what would it be like to kiss you. So that is the first sign on you should start planning on creating an opportunity. The second clue is the invasion of personal space. She either starts to invade yours or allows you to invade hers. You should also know women get anxious. So they position themselves for certain things they are ready for. Like if you haven't approached a women yet and she's sitting next to you, she might start to point her legs in you're direction in preparation for you're approach. That's just an example. They tend to do the same kind of thing when it come to kissing. They might start leaning in every time you start talking to her. Now there is a way is to test it. Now the way to do that is to touch her on the elbow lightly with one hand and then point to something behind her with the other and ask about it. If she doesn't tense up and lets you get into the personal space, she is definitely ready for you to try.

     Now you know the female mind when it comes to kissing. I hope this post has been helpful in letting you know when and how to find out if and when to kiss a girl. With that being said go out and have some fun.


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Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Writing Love Letters

       This post is about love letters. If you want to really turn your significant other on, try a love letter. A good love letter is something she will cherish and keep for years, even after the relationship has ended. It is a way to show how you feel in a very emotional and personal level. She will appreciate it in ways that no one can explain. It's a way to be intimate without being physical. When you can get an intimate connection with a woman without being physical, you can write yourself a blank check into her heart life and pants. She is yours for whatever you want. It doesn't matter if it's a mailed letter or a card, you will be forever in her heart if you can put your feeling in words. So here are a few tips to help you create that work of art love letter.

•     First of all be personal. Put things that relate to only you and her. If there is an inside joke that only you two share then put a reference to it in there. A memorable trip that comes to mind that brought out some emotions, mention how you felt about it. All of these things will make the letter feel very personal and sincere. Your letter should sound like it came from the heart.
  
  

•     Next tip tell her what she wants to hear. Mention how much you need her. Let her know how beautiful you think she is. Tell her how beautiful she is and why you think she's beautiful. Don't just mention physical traits but personality traits as well. That way she doesn't feel like your feelings are shallow.

•     Another tip is be sure to mention how much you cherish her. Women like to here how much they are appreciated. It will show you don't take her for granted. Mention some of the things she does for you. Say you don't know what you would do without her. Talk about how you feel when she's not around and how much you miss her.
  
  

•     Also don't be afraid to get sexual either. Women love to feel desirable. Believe it or not, women do like bringing out unadulterated lust out of a man. If you were together a long time, she will definitely like the idea that she still does that for you. You want to aim for sultry but nasty does work. This will take some of the sappiness out of the letter. So don't be scared to get a little naughty in your letter. Just don't over do it. Too much will take away from the letter.
  
  

• Last tip is to be sentimental. Share your feelings. Be sure to show your emotions. You need to express how much you love her and why. Women are very emotional creators. They are practically slaves to their emotions. So your letter should trigger these emotions. Use metaphors and compare her and your emotions to things she can relate to. Simply put you want to pour your heart out. If you do this tip right, the rest of the love letter almost doesn't matter.

     Now you know what you need to do to write a good love letter. The good thing about love letters is they can save you a lot of trouble when it comes to communication. Men are always being accused of not expressing how they feel or showing their emotions. If you get this a lot from your lady, This is a sure fire way of avoiding a lot of these fights. Also sometime it's true. You maybe the type of guy that can't talk about thing like that and the letter is a way out. Also it's a way of being romantic. If you send a love letter to the house when you're not there by the time you get home she will have taken care of the rest. A letter is a great way to get closer to a woman without the work that other interaction require and it usually works faster and a lot better as well. So don't underestimate it's power. With that being said, get to writing.

By: Intimate Asking

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Dating Shy Girls

 

    A woman can be shy for any number of reasons. Maybe she was teased in school growing up. She could have had a very bad past experience, or maybe she isn't that shy of a person but get shy around guys and intimate encounters. In any event if you want her, her shyness can and will be a problem if you don't get her to open up. The good news is her shyness is a dead giveaway on how she feels about you. If she is shy around you but still hangs out with you, then she definitely likes you. When she finally opens up to you and you have made what you're intentions clear, then you know you have the green light to move forward. Which we all know is the biggest problem when it comes to women ( reading them ).

     Women are very self conscious as a whole but shy women, even more so. Inside they are asking themselves why me. If she likes you then she is saying to herself “he probably doesn't and never will like me.” More to the point, they just fear that they are making a fool of themselves. If you can reassure them that you like them and that you are the biggest clown of the two, she will relax and open up. The whole situation may seem like shy girls are difficult but to be honest, they are usually quite an easy score once you get them past their shyness.

      The key to shy women is pressure. Let them understand that there is no pressure to do anything that they are not comfortable with. She will eventually warm up to you and then put pressure on herself to see that things move forward. If you put too much pressure on her early she will run or shut down and avoid you just to get out of the situation. So here are a few tips to help you capture a very easy and worth while target for whatever your desires maybe. The one night stand is going to be harder than a date but that's the case with most women.


      First tip is to take control of the situation and let her know that you like her. Compliment her often. Let her know you like the way she smells or her hair ( Stay away from looks, eyes, and body ). Talk about how much you like her style. Basically reassure her that you're into her. Not too much though, otherwise she won't believe you. Their confidence isn't high enough to believe you totally. They will think you're saying whatever to get into her pants. The second tip is alcohol. Get her drinking. It isn't called liquid courage for nothing. Thirdly ask her what her concerns are. Unlike most women, they wont mind and probably will answer and be honest about it. Then address the problem to reassure her. Also it will show you plan on being patient with her to take away some of the pressure. When asking questions, try asking things that require more than one word answers. Ask things like why did she choose that profession. My fourth tip is to talk about and do things that she likes or knows. In other words, keep her in her type of environment. It will help her to relax and open up around you. The last tip is to make her laugh. If you can get her laughing she will forget how insecure she is. Now those are just a few tips on what you should do.

      Well now that you know what to do to capture her, there are few things I should mention that you want to try and avoid. The first thing is not to keep mentioning how shy she is or pointing out anything about her insecurities. Shy girls already know that they are shy, so it will only make her even more insecure about it if you keep bringing it up. The second tip is to avoid places where she might run into her friends and people she knows. That way she wont feel self conscious about what her friends might think. That tip is for everything, asking her out, going for a kiss or maybe even approaching her in the first place. Anywhere that will help her keep you on her mind and everything else off her mind. Depending on the situation you made need to get her on a date to make any serious moves. The next thing I want to mention not to do, is force anything. That means don't push her to talk about things that she doesn't want to talk about or do things she doesn't want to do. Don't harass her about how quiet she is or doesn't talk to much either. Another tip is stay away from public displays of affection. It will only tense her up. Finally don't give any inclination that it bothers you that she's shy, but it is equally important that you don't say you like the fact that she's shy.

     Now you know all you need to know to get a shy girl. I recommend shy women to all men, because it doesn't matter what type of guy you are, she is very obtainable. If you're the type of guy that doesn't embarrass easily and have no problem approaching women but have trouble sealing the deal, then I recommend the shy girl because women like strength in their men, especially in places where they lack it. So she will let it all loose once you get her to open up and be proud of herself for doing it. If you're the timid guy that is insecure when it comes to women, the shy girl will probably move at pace more comfortable for you. Not to mention, with her it's not as important to be the confident alpha male that most other women require. If you're the guy who always gets too nice, then this is the chick who will definitely appreciate you. Now with that being said go out and have some fun with a woman that will probably like the attention and you.
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By : Intimate Asking

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Picking The Right Target For One Night Stands

   Picking your target is probably the most important part, because going after hot instead of going after ready is one of the biggest mistakes.  If your looking for a date I do recommend the hot girl but if want to get laid tonight you need the ready. The only time focusing on the hot girl for a one night stand is when there is a group of them.  She will have the most confidence to fuck you and not care if you call. The less attractive one doesn’t get a lot of male attention and will try and get a date out of the situation. Other than that hot girls are good targets only when the following applies. What most men don’t realize that women go out looking to get laid almost as much as men do, the problem for them is, they are just a little more particular about it. For them, six and a half just isn’t good enough. They want hot and interesting or even better smooth. The smooth guy for them is the one who does this kind of thing all the time and is probably good in bed just out of practice. Now picking exactly who is ready and looking for the one night stand that you’re looking for can be tricky, because lets face it, women don’t advertise that they are looking to get some.

  The girls on vacation are a good target. One of the main reason why women aren’t more promiscuous is because they are worried about their reputation. They don’t want to be labeled a slut, but while on vacation it is like being Vegas. What happens there stays there. So in other words you don’t count. You would be a freebie that she doesn’t have to add to her number. While searching for women on vacation, foreign women would be the best target and for several different reasons. First of all the accents, we find them sexy. Well so do the women. If English isn’t her first language she will be proud of herself that she is able to hold a conversation with you, so she doesn’t mind talking to you. Then there is the culture factor. No matter what country they are from their attitude about casual sex is probably different than yours and either way it benefits you. Either their culture is more constricting about sex in which case they want to take advantage of the freedom or their culture is a little more lax and it’s time to take advantage of an opportunity. Also foreign women usually like our approach. We are usually aggressive without being disrespectful. In other countries, the aggressive men are usually quite rude. Aggressiveness is always sexy because it suggests confidence. So from their perspective they’re not sure on how to handle the situation. On the one hand they like our approach and think we’re cute and interesting but on the other hand they’re not quite ready to jump in bed with us. To sum it up for some of them it is probably better to jump in bed with him than to miss out on sleeping with him all together.

    Getting to a bar early and targeting women that come in for happy hour is also good. There are a lot of women that had a long day and just want to feel better. Maybe they got fired, had a long meeting or just had a bad week. In any case they just want a drink and to relax. If you get them talking, all you need is two hours and a few drinks and it’s on. Another reason they are good targets is because their guard is down. They figure the guy in the bar is less interested in hooking up than the guy hitting on them at 2:30 in the morning. Also a lot of these women are girls who are very career oriented. So they don’t have time for a relationship. The one night stand is for the most part their only option when it comes to intimacy. The best part is, these ladies are easy to spot. Just look for the girl by herself in a bar at 6:30 in the afternoon. Also there is usually a lot less competition. No where near as many guys and the few that are there are probably not that desirable, making her options limited. So if you get to her first with some decent conversation it shouldn’t be that hard to seal the deal. The whole process shouldn't take that much time as well.  If your timing is perfect and your approach is good, you can be in at six, at her place by nine, and back home in your bed by eleven to get a good nights sleep.
    


        Girls that just broke up with their boyfriends are fantastic targets. They are very emotional and easy to pick up. All you have to do is listen to their sob story. Not only that, you can do no wrong. Everything you do is perfect. Either it’s something her ex never did and that’s good because it’s not him or her ex boyfriend use to do that and it reminds her of him. Usually they like hooking up with other guys just to prove to themselves that the breakup wasn’t their fault. That they are still desirable and their ex is just a loser. Also their friends are less likely to get in your way. They know she is down and if you can help her forget about her ex then as far as they’re concerned you deserve a free crack at her, and she really needs it. It all boils down to you making her feel better. One thing everyone takes for granted in a relationship is sex. It’s something you can count on getting at least once a week if not more, but when you’re single then it’s not uncommon to go a few months. In other words, you do realize what you got until it’s gone and that goes double for sex. Granted women can hold out longer than men can but if you catch a girl that has gotten use to twice a week and all of a sudden it’s been three weeks it increases your chances because she hasn’t gotten back into single mode yet.

         This next target is going to sound a little crazy but believe me when I say they are prime targets, married women. The longer they’ve been married the better. They have had the same thing for so long that they are so longing for something different. Also a lot of time husbands don’t show them attention they use to or don’t put in the time to make them feel desirable. They aren’t looking to end their marriage as much as they are just board with what they got. So a romp with a stranger they will never see again can be appealing. All they need is to believe they won’t get caught. I’m not saying that all married women are looking to cheat as much as I’m saying it is either going to be the hardest sex you ever got or the easiest sex you ever got. Now I said the longer the better but a newlywed is a pretty good target as well. Between the six month period and the year and a half period is the time to strike, just when the realization that she is married kicks in. Statistics say the first year of marriage is the hardest. Now I use the term married loosely. To be more accurate I mean women in long term relationships. Engaged, long term boyfriend etc. Engaged may even be better. There are the prewedding jitters that kick in or they’re worried about making a mistake. Sometime they know there about to marry the wrong guy and just don’t know how to call it off. In any event it’s the change in the relationship that triggers the opportunity. There is a difference between boyfriend and fiance. A fresh engagement not so much but one that’s been on for a few months and it has hit her that it’s really on, there is your target. To take it a step further the longer she’s been engaged the better your chances. If they’ve been engaged more than a year and there is no date set, if she thinks your hot then it is almost guaranteed. This means one of two things, she has push to set a date and he comes up with reasons not to or she won’t come up with one because she isn’t sure about him. Either way there is a problem and no ones talking about it.  Pretty much the same logic with long term relationships, four years and no engagement or proposals then either he’s proposed and she isn’t sure about him or he hasn’t and she’s insecure on why not and getting tired of waiting.

         Last but not least, older women are awesome targets. They have lived a little and to be honest they just don’t care anymore. For them the random hook up is about them. They decided they want it and they’re going to get it. They aren’t going to hint or play a game, they‘re just going to get to the point. It’s make sure you're into it so they know they’re not going to get rejected and then it’s on. For them the dating pool has gotten a lot smaller and the periods between sexual encounter are few and far between so lets not waist time.  Simply put, as far as they’re concerned you’re the one being used. I just recommend you being good, because they have little patience for bad lovers. Did I mention that they’ve gathered about twenty years of sexual experience and can probably give it to you so hard that you end up with whiplash. If you find an older woman at the bar pounce immediately. The good thing is if she isn’t interested she’ll let you know that to.

                    

      With that being said, we have reached the conclusion of this portion of this exercise and I hope you have gotten some valuable information. It is our hope that you use this valuable information a take full advantage of it. What you have read here combine with what you have already read on this site will help you in your quests to achieve your goals in the intimacy area of your life.

By: intimate asking