Men's Guide To Sex On: Tip For Dating Older Women

    This post is about getting older women. Older women are a great option for anything romantic. They are much more honest, and less insecure, so they are much better company. Especially when they are dealing with men younger than them. Now getting their attention and keeping it are two completely different tasks. So this post is about giving a few pointers in overcoming a few of the problems that may arise in meeting, capturing, and keeping their affections.

   The first tip is understand the situation. Older women rarely take younger men seriously for anything long term. So if you get her very quickly there is a good chance she doesn't have plans on keeping you very long. It maybe a case of even only wanting you for the night. Just so you know, if things move very smoothly for you, it's because she wants them to. They are a lot more experienced than you in life and that includes matters of romance. So she has seen and played most of the games that you try and run at her. Therefore they wont work unless she wants them to. Also don't assume older women are these horn dogs that are just after sex. The truth of matter is, woman in general are bigger perverts than men. Older woman are just more secure in themselves to understand that their sex life and self respect are not mutually exclusive. As a result sexual activity has more to do with what she thinks of him and less about what the potential partner thinks about her. Simply put girls get used women don't. Either they used each other or she used him.
 

 
  The second tip is be a gentleman. All those gentlemanly things that got you in the too nice category before with younger women are the keys to the front door with the older women. For them it shows that you know how to treat a woman. Not to mention they are usually done with that cocky young bad boy thing they liked in their twenties. Granted they never outgrow him, ( it's like us and huge boobs ) but they no longer seek or chase him. They have been there and done that. Now they seek a man that show appreciation for their time and attention. Not that games are behind her, it's more of her game is past you. When it comes to men her own age, they're getting much game. A younger man that she takes but so seriously and is probably just a fling at best in her eyes, just isn't worth the effort to play games. So your lack of games just comes off as maturity.

   Which brings me to the third tip. Be mature for your age. Don't be that loud obnoxious cocky guy that works with younger women. Be calm, polite, and well mannered. Dress nice with slacks and shoes. You don't want to keep doing and saying things that remind her of your age difference. She may not be as self conscious as younger women but she is still a little self conscious about the situation. She's asking herself, “what am I doing with this guy.” What will my friends and family think? Will people look at me as a cougar? Am I that desperate or lonely? You must find some common ground to show there I much more to the relationship than attraction. So unless she is really into younger guys or you are only after just sex then you want to appear to be as mature as possible.

  As for my last tip, this is the rule for all women. Be fun and spontaneous. Show the advantages of being with a younger man and demonstrate lots of energy and vigor. If you can remind her of her younger days even better. She will already be flattered that she is still able to get the attention of a man that much is younger than her but you can make her feel that much better by pouring on the charm. Tell her how beautiful she is. How you like what she's wearing and her style. Compliment her on anything and everything you notice. Don't spread it so thick that it's unbelievable but enough that it would be considered often. Let her take control of the conversation. You want to make her feel so much better about herself that she doesn't care about the age difference.

    Now those are just a few pointers for trying to get an older woman. So if there is a particular mature woman that has your attention, I recommend going out and giving a few of these suggestions a try. What's the worst that can happen? With that I end this post.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Creating Sexual Tension

     Building sexual tension is probably the most important part in seducing a woman. It's what will get her in the position you want her in. Whether it's for a relationship or something purely sexual. Woman are a lot more like us than we want to admit. When it comes to sex and relationships, there are very few differences and there are a lot of exceptions that make those differences go away. The three main differences in us are options, frustrations, and opportunity. We all have all three. The difference is the reasons why. Women's options are limited because of connection and spark. The amount of available guys that are capable of making a connection and creating a spark are few and far between. So that creates a lack of opportunity, therefore a certain level of frustration develops. For men figuring out how to connect and creating the sparks is the problem. That is the reason for our frustration. There are no limits to opportunity because we are the main one's responsible for initiating contact. So every woman we pass is an opportunity. Which brings me to the point of this post, if you can make a connection, she is hoping you can make a spark. Sexual tension is that spark and this post is going to tell you how to do that.

          To build sexual tension there are a few things you want to remember. The first thing is to be relaxed. If you're relaxed it will make it easier for her to relax. Women are very in tune to your body language. That's how they do most of their communication. Not being relaxed can give off any number of bad vibes. That is the advantage bad boys, players, and even married men have over the average guy. They are already getting sex, so they're not desperate for it. They always have a very calm and laid back demeanor towards sex. They're just looking for the next conquest. If they don't score, they have something lined up as back up just in case what they are going for doesn't work out. Which brings me to moods, moods are contagious. Ever go to a great party in a bad mood and stay more than two hours? Do you leave that party in a bad mood? How about a funeral of some one you barely knew, are you sad when you get there? Are you sad when you leave? This is what I'm talking about. The mood gets reflected. This is what you need to do in building sexual tension. Not only do you need to do it but you need to do it properly as well. So not being relaxed is the first huge mistake most guys make. Not being relaxed gives off a lack of confidence. Another mistake is getting too flirty or sexual too early. That gives a needy desperate vibe, or maybe even creepy, also not good. Waiting too long to get sexual or flirty as well makes a few problems. Women are bigger perverts than we are ( Social etiquette are the only reason they don't make it known ). So in their mind, because of the many men hitting on them once they get in their head that you are not a sexual option, it's on to the next one. Simply put, be confident and relaxed from the beginning or you're defeated before you even start.

   Women are emotional creatures. So to make a connection is easy. Talk about emotional topics. Family, friends, and future plans are all emotional safe topics .The trick is not sounding generic. Being generic puts you in a position of counting on your looks. If you're really good looking, she may be willing to let you get away with it a little more than most guys but you will get old fast. You want to stick out. Being generic doesn't make you stick it, it makes you look like every other guy before you. When you seem different than the other guys she has been talking to, she will want to try and figure out why you are different. That's how mysterious factor kicks in. Mystery is very important when creating sexual tension. She has a pretty good idea on why you are talking to her but until the flirting starts, there is a level of uncertainty and a woman's insecurity intensifies it five times. So as long as you're a mystery, she will probably keep talking to you. So being a little ambiguous about your intentions at first is in your best interest. Now these are the first stage of building sexual tension. As you continue to talk to her, start to use using subliminal messages. By simply using key words, you can stimulate certain emotions. Words like passion, love, tight, position and yes. These are all words that have a sexual undertone that if use innocently enough can and probably will get her sexual juices flowing. The trick is to use them innocently without coming off sexually or even flirty. If you do this properly, you will peak her interests.
    

     Now this brings me to the final portion of creating sexual tension, reflecting the mood. Once you have peaked her interests, you want to start thinking about her in a sexual way. Maybe imagine her in the positions you want to get her in. Think about how you want to kiss her. Before you say something to her, say in your head ( not out loud ) “I really want to tear your ass up but,” then say what you really was going to out loud. The trick is to change the mood in her mind by changing the mood in yours. Trust me when I say she will pick up on the vibe. Now if she isn't responding go back to respectful and ambiguous immediately. You can always try again later. If you are doing this and she is responding or even just still there, means you have done it right. Then it's just a matter of flirting. Flirt without coming off as cheesy, and she is yours to do with as you will. With that, I end this post and send you forward to conquer.

Mens Guide To Sex On: Getting Out Of The Friend Zone

     We have all been there, the dreaded friend zone. At some point in time in our life there has been some girl that we wanted romantically is some capacity. It doesn't work out that way because she saw us as just a friend. Now what makes one just a friend and not a lover in a woman's eyes differs with each girl, with each guy, and with each situation. Now to be honest, it is usually a case of the guy not being able to create a spark. You obviously made a connection or you wouldn't be a friend in the first place. At some point you either failed to create a spark or you turned her off and you didn't creep her out. Women are selfish creatures and bigger perverts than we are. They usually look at men as sexual potential in some shape or form or they don't have much use for us. So if you're in the friend zone, at the bare minimum she see you as some one to at least boost her ego from time to time. So the good news is you can get out of the friend zone. Which brings me to the point of this post. Today we are talking about how to get out of the friend zone.

       Now to get out of the friend zone, we must first figure out why you are there in the first place. Also you may need to find out if she knows you like her in that way. If she doesn't know it could be just a matter of making your feeling known. In that situation, there is a possibility the only reason you're in the friend zone is because she doesn't think she can get anything else. In which case, shame on you for not have enough balls to make a move. Now to get back to why most are in the friend zone, like I said before women are very selfish creatures and there is a chance she has you in the friend zone to use you. It's the buy the cow, milk for free rule. For her you are too needy and desperate and doesn't respect you enough to be her man, but you still have uses. You can boost her ego for when she is feeling down after a break up. You are good for free drinks when at the bar or some one to pick her up at the airport. To be honest you can even move up to booty call if she is desperate enough and no one else is available. In that case, don't expect it regularly because she knows you are hoping for more and she doesn't want to encourage you. She only does it because she knows she can do it and not feel like a slut later. Unlike some stranger she met in a bar and hopes to never see again to avoid the walk of shame or even worse, an ex that might think he's still has some hold on her because of it, with you there is a level of control. Then there is the case of she isn't using you but she is just being nice to a very good person that deserves respect. She isn't a bitch and understands that you're a nice guy that will make some girl happy, just not her. She would love to hook you up with one of her friends. Then there is the case of which she just sees you as very bad boyfriend material. This situation is usually means you have a personal issue she doesn't want to deal with (finances, past treatment of women, culture). When you figure out which one you are, then you can figure out what to do about it.

     Once you figure why you're in the friend zone, you need to decide if getting out is worth it. You need to decide this for several reasons. First reason is once you get out, it will be damn near impossible to go back to the friendship you had. So if you have been friends for years it might be in your best interest to remain just friends. Now if you are friends just so she can get the benefits of a boyfriend without the commitment, then you need to ask yourself is this thekind of person you want as a partner. The fact that she feels it's OK to use anyone for any reason says a lot about her as a person. You really shouldn't judge people but when you are talking about your significant other, you really don't have a choice. The last reason to ask yourself is it worth it is because you may have to change something about yourself. It is never a good idea to do something your not comfortable with or pretend to be something your not to impress some one else. In other words, the purpose of this paragraph is to say it might be better to move on to the next girl if this one won't appreciate you as is.




      Remember this there is a difference between changing who you are and bettering yourself. Which is what needs to happen. You are trying to get your crush to see you in a different light. We all have flaws. There are things in all of us that could use some improvement. I am suggesting that you present yourself in a different light. So first get healthier. Try eating better and getting in better shape. Maybe even the opposite, if you're that gym rat in great shape who gets a lot of girls and your crush sees you as shallow or full of yourself. In which case you need to show her that you aren't as bad as she thinks. Then work on being more productive. Getting thing accomplished that you wanted to but always put it off. Work on being less emotional or becoming more spiritual. Just try to improve yourself in any way that you see is better for you. After you have demonstrated the new you. This is when you want to make your move. Ask her why you are in the friend zone. If she has seen the improvements and has changed her mind, she will probably say I don't know. Then you should suggest maybe you two should work on changing it. If it is a teasing no, I'm not sure or anything that resembles a hesitant no, then it has worked. She just wants a little effort. Then get her out on a friendly date and create some sexual tension. If it's a definite no with a legitimate reasons, then you got a little more work to do. Also try dating some one else and make sure your crush knows about it. Ask her advice on what to do for the new girl. You want to give the impression that the new girl is getting spoiled. That's the thing about women, they hate to miss out on a good thing. If they don't want it, they don't want anyone else to have it either. They are competitive and a little controlling. Another girl in her position of controlling you is a little threatening. Now if that doesn't work that usually means there is just some one else in your way. In which case you just need to be patient. Cause like I said before women look at men as sexual or she doesn't have any use for you. So you're just waiting on your night of her being desperate and want to feel better. Then you knock her socks off in the sack and you're in. Now those are the ways to get out of the friend zone. So stop wasting time and go collect that girl you've been crushing on.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Why Older Women Are Better

     This post is dedicated to older women. Older women can be a relief from younger women in so many ways. Younger women can only compare physically and even that is a matter of opinion. Take that out of the equation, and it's like fine wine. It only gets better with age. Then it's a matter of how much can you drink before you get drunk. To explain all the reasons why an older woman might be a better romantic option for whatever intimate needs you require would take a book, but because there are so many it will not take long to make my point. So lets stop wasting time and get into it shall we?

     First of all, younger women want attention. Older women want respect. Her sex appeal comes from how she carries herself. Even if she has a nice body, her mind is what will get you wanting to tear her clothes off. Simply put she knows the difference between being sexy and looking slutty. Sexually she is young enough to do it often and old enough to do it well. They are at their sexual peak and will want it more than you do, and they knows exactly how to get it from you. They also have at least a decade of practice under her belt to make it worth your wild. Also depending on her experience, she is probably more willing to experiment. Younger women are usually very indecisive. They have no idea what they want. Even when they get what they think they want, they usually change their mind after they get it. To take it one step further, when they loose it (or get rid of it) they want it back when they see some one else with it. Older women know what they want and go for it when they find it. Which brings me to the next benefit, all women have a certain amount insecurities but older women handle them so much better. In other words a lot less games. They get to the point. When it comes to communication, I can't tell you how helpful this is. She is going to tell you what you need to know and when you need to know it. She isn't going to bitch at you, scream at you or yell at you and there is no hinting. She is going to talk to you directly a put it bluntly. They are also patient and once committed They are willing to work with you. They will put in the effort that you put in. The young girls are not patient and when it's not going the way she likes it, they usually bail. There is a higher level of responsibility with older woman that you can't find with younger ones. You can depend on her, even lean on her. She will depend on you a lot less and wont depend on you for things you can't provide. Young girls use the things you can't provide as an excuses to get rid of you. Now the best part about older women compared to younger women is their honesty. They will like you for more genuine reasons. It won't be anything other than you being you for he being there. She won't be there for your money, your car, or your status. Your personality is the only thing that can and will win her heart.

   Now there are some common traits and qualities that usually apply to all women regardless of their age. They all want fun, have a sense of adventure, lust for life, and an appreciation for a real man. The difference from the older woman compared to the younger one in these areas are, when it comes to fun an older woman knows how to have fun no matter who she's with. Even if you aren't her cup of tea, she will find common ground as oppose to a younger one who expects you to bring it to her. Also an older woman usually try to make sure you are having as much fun as she is. Her sense of adventure isn't limited to what she wants to do and going to what is considered popular. She is looking for the right travel companion, not just looking for who can afford to take her. She is helping with the bill. Her lust for life is different because of her experiences. They see life differently than their younger counterpart. So she is so much more emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially put together. She doesn't need anything, it's just a matter of what she wants. To get her all you need is you. What you bring to the table determines how long you stay. Which brings me to liking real men. Younger woman have a preconceived idea of what a man is or at least should be. When you don't measure up to it, she holds it against you. Older women realize that there are all kinds of men in this world and the fun is trying to figure out which one you are and experiencing what you have to offer. Turn her on and she will do her best to give you the experience of your life.

 

    I could go on and on about how an older woman are better than younger ones but like I said before that's a book, not a blog post. To get one just be yourself and let her decide how much she want to deal with you. They are very smart and can spot bullshit a mile away. So honesty with a direct approach is the best policy when approaching them. They will let you know very early if you're being successful. Just be confident, sincere, and attentive then see what's up. Any event I hope I have convinced you enough to at least go and see if I'm right.

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Tips For Nice Guys

      This post is for the nice guys. The guys that deserve everlasting love but doesn't get it because he doesn't excite potential mates. There is a saying, nice guys finish last. Unfortunately when it comes to dating that is true more often than not. You would think with all the complaining women do about men, a nice guy would be fought over like Brad Pitt but the truth is nice guys have the worst time when it comes to dating. To be honest the problem for the most part is just women are immature when it comes to romance. Instead of simply settling for the guy that love respects and treats her well, they spend 10 to 15 years being abused by bad boys in hopes of taming the beasts before appreciating the good men that like them and treats them well from the beginning. That's here nor there. You are not a bad boy and you don't have to be one. So this post is going to talk about problems of being a nice guy and what to do about it.

     The problem with nice guys is simple, they are usually patient, kind, understanding, and cooperative. These things are a problem for several reasons. Women think way too much into things. They look at certain traits the wrong way and come to ridiculous conclusions. Also they can be selfish and a little manipulative. With that being said, here are some don't do s when dealing with women. Don't be her doormat. If you're just friends, then stay just friends. Treat her like one of the guys friends and limit favors to what an average guy friend would get. Don't buy her drinks, pick her up from the airport or drop off her dry cleaning. Those are things for her boyfriend. They don't give you romance because they don't have to. It's the same as buy the cow, milk for free rule. Nice guys tend to be overly nice in the hope of impressing them and win them over. Which brings me to my next don't. Being overly cooperative is another big no. They see your cooperation as you're too eager to please and a sign of desperation. So don't inconvenience yourself for her. Especially if she knows you like her. There is more than a 50% chance that is the reason she asked, to use you. To sum it all up, women need to date you and discover that you are patient, kind, understanding, and cooperative, rather than see those thing upfront. If it's too early, they wont see them that way. They will see you as needy, spineless, feminine and pathetic. You are not a challenge and not worth their time. At best she will consider you after she has had enough of being used and abused by the bad boys. In the mean time she will just view you as some one to boost her ego.

    Now here are a few things to do that will help our cause. First is don't be afraid to put a woman in the friend zone. Once she gets there keep her there and don't let her out without earning it. When she earns it, make her earn her way out slowly. She goes from friend to friend with benefits or booty call. Then move her to something very casual, to then something more meaningful. Second is to limit the amount of attention you give women. Let her wonder how much you are into her. She will assume you are naturally but her insecurities will mess with her and look for clues. So don't give her any. Third is to set boundaries and stick to them. Women will push their luck with you to see what she can get away with. Make sure when she does, she knows early where she stands. Fourth when you do something for her, make sure it is appreciated and reciprocated later. Ask for something small if you have to just to see that it is reciprocated. If she cant do it then, then ask for something again later to give her second shot but if she doesn't do it then cut it loose and put her in the friend zone. In other words make sure you get the effort you're putting in. Fifth pick nice girls or at least mature who have had enough of the bullshit games and will appreciate your kindness. You shouldn't have to play these foolish childish games with them and the right girl is usually the one that realizes that and doesn't do it. Lastly but most importantly have confidence. Remember that as a nice guy you are the man of her dreams, she is just too immature and inexperienced to see it. Know you don't need them you want them. As long as you have that attitude you will elude confidence and be fine.

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: The Very Biggest Dating Mistakes

    Dating can be a challenging venture. Getting a date is challenging enough, getting a second date can be even more challenging. Knowing what to do is very hard. Lets face it women can be picky, difficult, and confusing. They don't give clues on what to do and they punish you if you get it wrong. Now what is the right thing to do differs from girl to girl, but there are some basic don't that you can apply to most women that will help your chances for a second date. With that being said, here are few dating mistakes that everyone makes that you should avoid.

Tip 1: Don't Talk Too Much.

     They say women like to talk. The truth is they like to talk while you listen. The biggest problem with talking to much is you run the risk of saying the wrong thing. It doesn't take much to turn most women off. You mention your into something that she doesn't like or express an opinion that she disagrees with strongly, you're toast. Just giving too much information can sabotage you. On a third or fourth date you may get away with it, but on the first is suicide. Another problem with talking a lot is how you come off. There are many different ways to come off by talking a lot and most of them are bad. If she isn't really into what you're talking about can come off as boring. Then there is the other way. You could have a very interesting life with much to tell but too much and you come off full of yourself. Another bad thing to avoid by talking a lot is you don't want to look like a know it all. Now there are exceptions to the rule. Shy women usually like you to talk more but you do want her to do most of it. So do yourself a favor and keep it simple. If he want to know something, trust me when I say she will ask.

Tip 2: Don't Misrepresent Yourself

  Honesty is very important to women. So being genuine is very much in your best interests. It is hard to establish a connection with someone you don't trust. therefore embellishing isn't a good idea. Depending on the situation it is better to downplay and be a pleasant surprise than to exaggerate and be a disappointment. Most of the men they come across are full of it anyway, so the look for lies. Also if you brag about too much and make yourself seem too good to be true, she may start to think you're just that, to good to be true. You want to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Don't say it if you can't deliver. The main reason you don't want to exaggerate is because it's not necessary. If she is on a date with you then she has already seen something in you and is just hoping you don't fuck it up more than she is looking for you to convince her to move forward. Simply put, be yourself and be humble.

Tip 3: Don't Be Cheap

     Being frugal on a first date is always a bad idea. This is one thing most women look for. For them, this says a lot about you. It say's how much you value money, how much you value her, and how generous you are. So you don't want to ask to go dutch. You want to avoid fast food restaurants, walks in the park, even having her meet you instead of picking her up may hurt you. I'm not saying these are instant killers as much as I'm saying at some point during the date you need to spend some money. You don't have to break the bank and get expensive. Just don't be dirt cheap.

Tip 4: Don't Have Sex On The First Date.

      This is important because of respect. It maybe tempting and hard to say no but it does increase your chances for a second date. If you want more dates or even just establishing a relationship respect does come into play. She will respect you more if you refrain from sex immediately. It will say a lot about you and you will come off as different than most guys. Don't just flat out say no, otherwise she will feel rejected. Just explain to her that you like her and it is important to you that she respects you. Sometimes a woman may not be into you but she does find you attractive and decide to use the opportunity to just get off,. In which case you probably should just get the sex because you're not going to get another date. If that isn't the situation, to see her again you are better off saying no.



       Now those are four really important tips for a first date. I'm not saying that not making those mistake guarantee a second date I'm just saying they are a huge help. Not making those mistakes combine with showing her a good time should get you another date. So keep them in mind the next time you're out with a woman you really like.

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Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Writing Love Letters

       This post is about love letters. If you want to really turn your significant other on, try a love letter. A good love letter is something she will cherish and keep for years, even after the relationship has ended. It is a way to show how you feel in a very emotional and personal level. She will appreciate it in ways that no one can explain. It's a way to be intimate without being physical. When you can get an intimate connection with a woman without being physical, you can write yourself a blank check into her heart life and pants. She is yours for whatever you want. It doesn't matter if it's a mailed letter or a card, you will be forever in her heart if you can put your feeling in words. So here are a few tips to help you create that work of art love letter.

•     First of all be personal. Put things that relate to only you and her. If there is an inside joke that only you two share then put a reference to it in there. A memorable trip that comes to mind that brought out some emotions, mention how you felt about it. All of these things will make the letter feel very personal and sincere. Your letter should sound like it came from the heart.
  
  

•     Next tip tell her what she wants to hear. Mention how much you need her. Let her know how beautiful you think she is. Tell her how beautiful she is and why you think she's beautiful. Don't just mention physical traits but personality traits as well. That way she doesn't feel like your feelings are shallow.

•     Another tip is be sure to mention how much you cherish her. Women like to here how much they are appreciated. It will show you don't take her for granted. Mention some of the things she does for you. Say you don't know what you would do without her. Talk about how you feel when she's not around and how much you miss her.
  
  

•     Also don't be afraid to get sexual either. Women love to feel desirable. Believe it or not, women do like bringing out unadulterated lust out of a man. If you were together a long time, she will definitely like the idea that she still does that for you. You want to aim for sultry but nasty does work. This will take some of the sappiness out of the letter. So don't be scared to get a little naughty in your letter. Just don't over do it. Too much will take away from the letter.
  
  

• Last tip is to be sentimental. Share your feelings. Be sure to show your emotions. You need to express how much you love her and why. Women are very emotional creators. They are practically slaves to their emotions. So your letter should trigger these emotions. Use metaphors and compare her and your emotions to things she can relate to. Simply put you want to pour your heart out. If you do this tip right, the rest of the love letter almost doesn't matter.

     Now you know what you need to do to write a good love letter. The good thing about love letters is they can save you a lot of trouble when it comes to communication. Men are always being accused of not expressing how they feel or showing their emotions. If you get this a lot from your lady, This is a sure fire way of avoiding a lot of these fights. Also sometime it's true. You maybe the type of guy that can't talk about thing like that and the letter is a way out. Also it's a way of being romantic. If you send a love letter to the house when you're not there by the time you get home she will have taken care of the rest. A letter is a great way to get closer to a woman without the work that other interaction require and it usually works faster and a lot better as well. So don't underestimate it's power. With that being said, get to writing.

By: Intimate Asking

Men's Guide To Sex On: What Women Really Mean When They Say They Want A "Nice Guy"

   If you spend any time reading the profiles on Match.com or any of the other online dating sites, you'll see a lot of women who say they just want to meet "a nice guy." Furthermore, if you talk to women about relationships often you'll hear, "I'm tired of dating all these jerks. I just want to meet a nice guy." Guys read and hear this, so when they meet a woman, they act like a "nice guy." They're sweet, respectful, give her compliments, gifts a peck on the cheek--and they never see her again. What's her reason? She'll say, "he was a really nice guy, but there was no chemistry there." Remarkably enough, this is the same woman who says, "I just want to meet a nice guy." What's the disconnect, what's going on here? Why do women say they want to meet nice guys, but when they do meet one they don't want to see him again because there's no "chemistry?" The answer has to do with what we as men think a nice guy is, and what women really mean when they say a "nice guy." We think of a "nice guy" as a guy who's meek, mild, unoffensive, humble, a guy who compliments women, buys them gifts, lets them make all the decisions, wants her to "just be happy," and is very careful to do nothing to offend her. Women think of a nice guy as a guy who makes them feel like they feel when they're around the jerkiest of jerks, but doesn't come with the baggage and negative behaviors the jerks always come with. Here's what women want when they say they want to meet a "nice guy:" a man with a strong sense of personal authority, with a naughty, fun, playful side, who genuinely likes women. While he engages in "naughty behavior" he doesn't do the things jerks do: lying, abusing, freeloading, etc. In other words the "nice guy" women want makes them feel like she's with a jerk without the bad behaviors the jerk brings. So next time you hear or read a woman say, "I just want to meet a nice guy," you'll know what she really means--and it has nothing to do with how men define a nice guy.


By: Jim Andreesong