Mens Guide To Sex On: How To Be A Player

      This post is about how to be a player. There are several things that make a player. Now what they are is a matter of perspective. A lot of times it just who you ask. What one may call a player, some one else may call that same person a womanizer. It all just boils down to honesty and who your talking to. Sometimes it's just who got hurt. In any even whether you're a womanizer, player, dog, or just a guy who has a way with women, there are certain traits all of these titles share. So this post is dedicated to talking about exactly what these traits are and what is required to achieve that reputation.

      First off , you need a swagger. I way of carrying yourself that is irresistible to women. Not necessarily a tall dark and handsome James Bond type charm, but something most women respond to. Now granted that does make things easier in the reputation department but do you want the rep or do you want the women. Some of the best players are the ones that don't look or sound like player but get all the action of a player because of it. Not to mention they get the women that avoid players like the plague. I know one player that did his best work by just drifting in the friend zone. By being the best buddy, he would just hang out and then create sexual tension from time to time to get what he wanted. Then always fall right back into the friend zone when the unsuspecting female tried to take it further. The best part about it was the friend zone thing was her idea in the first place, therefore she had no right to complain about him trying to stay there. That is just one instance. In any event, you do need to have something about you that women respond to, that makes you good company. Remember, women don't hate players, they only hate being played and all of them like the idea of taming the beast.

     After that you need to have the right mindset. Commitment is never even considered. Any woman that gives you her heart is asking to have it broken. It doesn't matter if she knew you were a player or not. So know all encounters are not to be taken but so seriously. Also no woman gets too much attention. There are not special. You only make them feel like they are. Feeling aren't something you have, it's something you control. You also need to be bold. In matters of seduction, control is something women have, enjoy, and do their best to keep. They don't plan on surrendering it easily. Women are a slave to their emotions. You need to be bold enough to take charge of the situation and reach her emotion so she doesn't have much choice. Knowing when to make an exist is also part of this mindset. That also means every woman has a time limit. You are never in one place for too long. You may have a time frame in your head but it is flexible. Depending on the situation, you can and will deviate from the plan.  

     Third is your interactions. Having a way with word is the key to having your way with women. You need to have a certain charm. The more original the better. Funny is always a plus. Having a good time with women is the thing that makes you stick out from all the other alpha males. It is also the reason women talk to you even though they see the dangers of a probable heartbreak. You should always know what to say. Therefore you need to be clever because a player has to make quick decisions. Even though you know what to say, you always watch what you say. It's imperative that you're mindful of these things. It might come back to bite you in the ass later.





     Lastly you need the skills. Sex can't just be an activity with you, it needs to be an experience. You need to be able to seek out and deliver a fantasy. Not just in the bedroom but the whole randevue. The kissing, the touching, the foreplay, and especially the sex. It all needs to be some of the best she ever had. Women talk and if you deliver the good and your rep is out there, that you are always available, being a player will get much easier. So make sure you know your shit.

      Now those are the cues on how to be a player. Good luck on this venture. It is easier said than done. Once you get a little practice and figure out exactly how it's done, it can be very fun. With that I bring this post to an end.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: The Texting Code

     With all of today's modern advances, communication has become a bit of a challenge. With emails and texting being the main form of communication for so many women, phone calls and love letters have fallen to the same level as the telegraph and smoke signals. Throw in the pop culture abbreviations, picture, and punctuation, it could leave even the smartest of scholars confused. So this post is for figuring out the texting code. There are good texts and bad texts, it all depends on how you look at it. This post we are going to give you the inside track on the texts she sends and what they mean. What she texts will give you an idea of how she feels about you and the situation. How you respond to those texts will make or break you. Women are constantly trying to figure us out, so they use texts to do it. Text are a good way because they can focus on the words you use instead of just what you said. In any event, I don't see why we can't do the same thing. With that being said, lets get to it.

   Lets start with some of the bad texts because those are the easiest and there aren't that many. If she doesn't care, she won't waste a lot of time texting you. If she makes a really stupid excuse why she can't hang out (playing with my dog) then she thinks you're a lowlife. Talking about other guys with you isn't good either. They hide other men from other guys they believe have potential. If she doesn't text you before her birthday or right after her birthday then you have messed up somewhere. One word texts are really bad. Women really hate them. So if she gives you one then she really doesn't care. Another sign she doesn't care anymore is bad spelling and grammar. The older a woman gets the more she cares about that sort of thing. If texting is her main source of communication, the more she tries to communicate the more she like you. The less she communicates the less she cares. Know if she has a lot of guy friends and everyone gets texts then her texting you could her just being friendly. Other than that, the more texts the better.

   As for the good things in texting, there are a lot more. If she texts you a lot then she probably likes you. Like I said before, the more text the more she likes you. Forty or more texts is obvious sign that yes she is into you. Putting a lot of XOXO's, smiley faces and exclamation point are all great signs she is into you. Texting comments on a string that ended hours ago is another sign. She is definitely into you if she send these long winded texts, being goofy, or talking about random things. Pictures with her in them are for you and a dead give away that she like you. If they are with her friends it doesn't necessarily mean anything. When they are with you then she is trying to connect and share with you. Mentioning bed, shower, or getting dressed is her way of flirting. If she mentions activities, she is trying to get you to ask her out. Texts that suggest she is checking up on you or asking for advice there is a very good chance she is crushing on you. Those situation is just her trying to make a connection. Women need to make a connection with a man to have anything intimate. Late night texts is a sign she likes you. At the bare minimum it's an attempt at a booty call but it a sign that she at least trusts you. Sending texts about her looks is her fishing to see what you like about her. Saying things like I love you or care about you are ballsy and she wouldn't say it unless she wants some moves made.

  
  Now those are a lot of the texting codes and their meaning. So pay attention to what she text's you. Women that do a lot of texting give away everything without even knowing it. So don't let these things confuse you. So here is where this post comes to an end. So go send some texts.

 

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Getting Out Of The Friend Zone

     We have all been there, the dreaded friend zone. At some point in time in our life there has been some girl that we wanted romantically is some capacity. It doesn't work out that way because she saw us as just a friend. Now what makes one just a friend and not a lover in a woman's eyes differs with each girl, with each guy, and with each situation. Now to be honest, it is usually a case of the guy not being able to create a spark. You obviously made a connection or you wouldn't be a friend in the first place. At some point you either failed to create a spark or you turned her off and you didn't creep her out. Women are selfish creatures and bigger perverts than we are. They usually look at men as sexual potential in some shape or form or they don't have much use for us. So if you're in the friend zone, at the bare minimum she see you as some one to at least boost her ego from time to time. So the good news is you can get out of the friend zone. Which brings me to the point of this post. Today we are talking about how to get out of the friend zone.

       Now to get out of the friend zone, we must first figure out why you are there in the first place. Also you may need to find out if she knows you like her in that way. If she doesn't know it could be just a matter of making your feeling known. In that situation, there is a possibility the only reason you're in the friend zone is because she doesn't think she can get anything else. In which case, shame on you for not have enough balls to make a move. Now to get back to why most are in the friend zone, like I said before women are very selfish creatures and there is a chance she has you in the friend zone to use you. It's the buy the cow, milk for free rule. For her you are too needy and desperate and doesn't respect you enough to be her man, but you still have uses. You can boost her ego for when she is feeling down after a break up. You are good for free drinks when at the bar or some one to pick her up at the airport. To be honest you can even move up to booty call if she is desperate enough and no one else is available. In that case, don't expect it regularly because she knows you are hoping for more and she doesn't want to encourage you. She only does it because she knows she can do it and not feel like a slut later. Unlike some stranger she met in a bar and hopes to never see again to avoid the walk of shame or even worse, an ex that might think he's still has some hold on her because of it, with you there is a level of control. Then there is the case of she isn't using you but she is just being nice to a very good person that deserves respect. She isn't a bitch and understands that you're a nice guy that will make some girl happy, just not her. She would love to hook you up with one of her friends. Then there is the case of which she just sees you as very bad boyfriend material. This situation is usually means you have a personal issue she doesn't want to deal with (finances, past treatment of women, culture). When you figure out which one you are, then you can figure out what to do about it.

     Once you figure why you're in the friend zone, you need to decide if getting out is worth it. You need to decide this for several reasons. First reason is once you get out, it will be damn near impossible to go back to the friendship you had. So if you have been friends for years it might be in your best interest to remain just friends. Now if you are friends just so she can get the benefits of a boyfriend without the commitment, then you need to ask yourself is this thekind of person you want as a partner. The fact that she feels it's OK to use anyone for any reason says a lot about her as a person. You really shouldn't judge people but when you are talking about your significant other, you really don't have a choice. The last reason to ask yourself is it worth it is because you may have to change something about yourself. It is never a good idea to do something your not comfortable with or pretend to be something your not to impress some one else. In other words, the purpose of this paragraph is to say it might be better to move on to the next girl if this one won't appreciate you as is.




      Remember this there is a difference between changing who you are and bettering yourself. Which is what needs to happen. You are trying to get your crush to see you in a different light. We all have flaws. There are things in all of us that could use some improvement. I am suggesting that you present yourself in a different light. So first get healthier. Try eating better and getting in better shape. Maybe even the opposite, if you're that gym rat in great shape who gets a lot of girls and your crush sees you as shallow or full of yourself. In which case you need to show her that you aren't as bad as she thinks. Then work on being more productive. Getting thing accomplished that you wanted to but always put it off. Work on being less emotional or becoming more spiritual. Just try to improve yourself in any way that you see is better for you. After you have demonstrated the new you. This is when you want to make your move. Ask her why you are in the friend zone. If she has seen the improvements and has changed her mind, she will probably say I don't know. Then you should suggest maybe you two should work on changing it. If it is a teasing no, I'm not sure or anything that resembles a hesitant no, then it has worked. She just wants a little effort. Then get her out on a friendly date and create some sexual tension. If it's a definite no with a legitimate reasons, then you got a little more work to do. Also try dating some one else and make sure your crush knows about it. Ask her advice on what to do for the new girl. You want to give the impression that the new girl is getting spoiled. That's the thing about women, they hate to miss out on a good thing. If they don't want it, they don't want anyone else to have it either. They are competitive and a little controlling. Another girl in her position of controlling you is a little threatening. Now if that doesn't work that usually means there is just some one else in your way. In which case you just need to be patient. Cause like I said before women look at men as sexual or she doesn't have any use for you. So you're just waiting on your night of her being desperate and want to feel better. Then you knock her socks off in the sack and you're in. Now those are the ways to get out of the friend zone. So stop wasting time and go collect that girl you've been crushing on.

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Why Older Women Are Better

     This post is dedicated to older women. Older women can be a relief from younger women in so many ways. Younger women can only compare physically and even that is a matter of opinion. Take that out of the equation, and it's like fine wine. It only gets better with age. Then it's a matter of how much can you drink before you get drunk. To explain all the reasons why an older woman might be a better romantic option for whatever intimate needs you require would take a book, but because there are so many it will not take long to make my point. So lets stop wasting time and get into it shall we?

     First of all, younger women want attention. Older women want respect. Her sex appeal comes from how she carries herself. Even if she has a nice body, her mind is what will get you wanting to tear her clothes off. Simply put she knows the difference between being sexy and looking slutty. Sexually she is young enough to do it often and old enough to do it well. They are at their sexual peak and will want it more than you do, and they knows exactly how to get it from you. They also have at least a decade of practice under her belt to make it worth your wild. Also depending on her experience, she is probably more willing to experiment. Younger women are usually very indecisive. They have no idea what they want. Even when they get what they think they want, they usually change their mind after they get it. To take it one step further, when they loose it (or get rid of it) they want it back when they see some one else with it. Older women know what they want and go for it when they find it. Which brings me to the next benefit, all women have a certain amount insecurities but older women handle them so much better. In other words a lot less games. They get to the point. When it comes to communication, I can't tell you how helpful this is. She is going to tell you what you need to know and when you need to know it. She isn't going to bitch at you, scream at you or yell at you and there is no hinting. She is going to talk to you directly a put it bluntly. They are also patient and once committed They are willing to work with you. They will put in the effort that you put in. The young girls are not patient and when it's not going the way she likes it, they usually bail. There is a higher level of responsibility with older woman that you can't find with younger ones. You can depend on her, even lean on her. She will depend on you a lot less and wont depend on you for things you can't provide. Young girls use the things you can't provide as an excuses to get rid of you. Now the best part about older women compared to younger women is their honesty. They will like you for more genuine reasons. It won't be anything other than you being you for he being there. She won't be there for your money, your car, or your status. Your personality is the only thing that can and will win her heart.

   Now there are some common traits and qualities that usually apply to all women regardless of their age. They all want fun, have a sense of adventure, lust for life, and an appreciation for a real man. The difference from the older woman compared to the younger one in these areas are, when it comes to fun an older woman knows how to have fun no matter who she's with. Even if you aren't her cup of tea, she will find common ground as oppose to a younger one who expects you to bring it to her. Also an older woman usually try to make sure you are having as much fun as she is. Her sense of adventure isn't limited to what she wants to do and going to what is considered popular. She is looking for the right travel companion, not just looking for who can afford to take her. She is helping with the bill. Her lust for life is different because of her experiences. They see life differently than their younger counterpart. So she is so much more emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially put together. She doesn't need anything, it's just a matter of what she wants. To get her all you need is you. What you bring to the table determines how long you stay. Which brings me to liking real men. Younger woman have a preconceived idea of what a man is or at least should be. When you don't measure up to it, she holds it against you. Older women realize that there are all kinds of men in this world and the fun is trying to figure out which one you are and experiencing what you have to offer. Turn her on and she will do her best to give you the experience of your life.

 

    I could go on and on about how an older woman are better than younger ones but like I said before that's a book, not a blog post. To get one just be yourself and let her decide how much she want to deal with you. They are very smart and can spot bullshit a mile away. So honesty with a direct approach is the best policy when approaching them. They will let you know very early if you're being successful. Just be confident, sincere, and attentive then see what's up. Any event I hope I have convinced you enough to at least go and see if I'm right.

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Tips For Nice Guys

      This post is for the nice guys. The guys that deserve everlasting love but doesn't get it because he doesn't excite potential mates. There is a saying, nice guys finish last. Unfortunately when it comes to dating that is true more often than not. You would think with all the complaining women do about men, a nice guy would be fought over like Brad Pitt but the truth is nice guys have the worst time when it comes to dating. To be honest the problem for the most part is just women are immature when it comes to romance. Instead of simply settling for the guy that love respects and treats her well, they spend 10 to 15 years being abused by bad boys in hopes of taming the beasts before appreciating the good men that like them and treats them well from the beginning. That's here nor there. You are not a bad boy and you don't have to be one. So this post is going to talk about problems of being a nice guy and what to do about it.

     The problem with nice guys is simple, they are usually patient, kind, understanding, and cooperative. These things are a problem for several reasons. Women think way too much into things. They look at certain traits the wrong way and come to ridiculous conclusions. Also they can be selfish and a little manipulative. With that being said, here are some don't do s when dealing with women. Don't be her doormat. If you're just friends, then stay just friends. Treat her like one of the guys friends and limit favors to what an average guy friend would get. Don't buy her drinks, pick her up from the airport or drop off her dry cleaning. Those are things for her boyfriend. They don't give you romance because they don't have to. It's the same as buy the cow, milk for free rule. Nice guys tend to be overly nice in the hope of impressing them and win them over. Which brings me to my next don't. Being overly cooperative is another big no. They see your cooperation as you're too eager to please and a sign of desperation. So don't inconvenience yourself for her. Especially if she knows you like her. There is more than a 50% chance that is the reason she asked, to use you. To sum it all up, women need to date you and discover that you are patient, kind, understanding, and cooperative, rather than see those thing upfront. If it's too early, they wont see them that way. They will see you as needy, spineless, feminine and pathetic. You are not a challenge and not worth their time. At best she will consider you after she has had enough of being used and abused by the bad boys. In the mean time she will just view you as some one to boost her ego.

    Now here are a few things to do that will help our cause. First is don't be afraid to put a woman in the friend zone. Once she gets there keep her there and don't let her out without earning it. When she earns it, make her earn her way out slowly. She goes from friend to friend with benefits or booty call. Then move her to something very casual, to then something more meaningful. Second is to limit the amount of attention you give women. Let her wonder how much you are into her. She will assume you are naturally but her insecurities will mess with her and look for clues. So don't give her any. Third is to set boundaries and stick to them. Women will push their luck with you to see what she can get away with. Make sure when she does, she knows early where she stands. Fourth when you do something for her, make sure it is appreciated and reciprocated later. Ask for something small if you have to just to see that it is reciprocated. If she cant do it then, then ask for something again later to give her second shot but if she doesn't do it then cut it loose and put her in the friend zone. In other words make sure you get the effort you're putting in. Fifth pick nice girls or at least mature who have had enough of the bullshit games and will appreciate your kindness. You shouldn't have to play these foolish childish games with them and the right girl is usually the one that realizes that and doesn't do it. Lastly but most importantly have confidence. Remember that as a nice guy you are the man of her dreams, she is just too immature and inexperienced to see it. Know you don't need them you want them. As long as you have that attitude you will elude confidence and be fine.

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: The Very Biggest Dating Mistakes

    Dating can be a challenging venture. Getting a date is challenging enough, getting a second date can be even more challenging. Knowing what to do is very hard. Lets face it women can be picky, difficult, and confusing. They don't give clues on what to do and they punish you if you get it wrong. Now what is the right thing to do differs from girl to girl, but there are some basic don't that you can apply to most women that will help your chances for a second date. With that being said, here are few dating mistakes that everyone makes that you should avoid.

Tip 1: Don't Talk Too Much.

     They say women like to talk. The truth is they like to talk while you listen. The biggest problem with talking to much is you run the risk of saying the wrong thing. It doesn't take much to turn most women off. You mention your into something that she doesn't like or express an opinion that she disagrees with strongly, you're toast. Just giving too much information can sabotage you. On a third or fourth date you may get away with it, but on the first is suicide. Another problem with talking a lot is how you come off. There are many different ways to come off by talking a lot and most of them are bad. If she isn't really into what you're talking about can come off as boring. Then there is the other way. You could have a very interesting life with much to tell but too much and you come off full of yourself. Another bad thing to avoid by talking a lot is you don't want to look like a know it all. Now there are exceptions to the rule. Shy women usually like you to talk more but you do want her to do most of it. So do yourself a favor and keep it simple. If he want to know something, trust me when I say she will ask.

Tip 2: Don't Misrepresent Yourself

  Honesty is very important to women. So being genuine is very much in your best interests. It is hard to establish a connection with someone you don't trust. therefore embellishing isn't a good idea. Depending on the situation it is better to downplay and be a pleasant surprise than to exaggerate and be a disappointment. Most of the men they come across are full of it anyway, so the look for lies. Also if you brag about too much and make yourself seem too good to be true, she may start to think you're just that, to good to be true. You want to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Don't say it if you can't deliver. The main reason you don't want to exaggerate is because it's not necessary. If she is on a date with you then she has already seen something in you and is just hoping you don't fuck it up more than she is looking for you to convince her to move forward. Simply put, be yourself and be humble.

Tip 3: Don't Be Cheap

     Being frugal on a first date is always a bad idea. This is one thing most women look for. For them, this says a lot about you. It say's how much you value money, how much you value her, and how generous you are. So you don't want to ask to go dutch. You want to avoid fast food restaurants, walks in the park, even having her meet you instead of picking her up may hurt you. I'm not saying these are instant killers as much as I'm saying at some point during the date you need to spend some money. You don't have to break the bank and get expensive. Just don't be dirt cheap.

Tip 4: Don't Have Sex On The First Date.

      This is important because of respect. It maybe tempting and hard to say no but it does increase your chances for a second date. If you want more dates or even just establishing a relationship respect does come into play. She will respect you more if you refrain from sex immediately. It will say a lot about you and you will come off as different than most guys. Don't just flat out say no, otherwise she will feel rejected. Just explain to her that you like her and it is important to you that she respects you. Sometimes a woman may not be into you but she does find you attractive and decide to use the opportunity to just get off,. In which case you probably should just get the sex because you're not going to get another date. If that isn't the situation, to see her again you are better off saying no.



       Now those are four really important tips for a first date. I'm not saying that not making those mistake guarantee a second date I'm just saying they are a huge help. Not making those mistakes combine with showing her a good time should get you another date. So keep them in mind the next time you're out with a woman you really like.

By: Intimate Asking

Men's Guide 2 Sex On: Dating Shy Girls

 

    A woman can be shy for any number of reasons. Maybe she was teased in school growing up. She could have had a very bad past experience, or maybe she isn't that shy of a person but get shy around guys and intimate encounters. In any event if you want her, her shyness can and will be a problem if you don't get her to open up. The good news is her shyness is a dead giveaway on how she feels about you. If she is shy around you but still hangs out with you, then she definitely likes you. When she finally opens up to you and you have made what you're intentions clear, then you know you have the green light to move forward. Which we all know is the biggest problem when it comes to women ( reading them ).

     Women are very self conscious as a whole but shy women, even more so. Inside they are asking themselves why me. If she likes you then she is saying to herself “he probably doesn't and never will like me.” More to the point, they just fear that they are making a fool of themselves. If you can reassure them that you like them and that you are the biggest clown of the two, she will relax and open up. The whole situation may seem like shy girls are difficult but to be honest, they are usually quite an easy score once you get them past their shyness.

      The key to shy women is pressure. Let them understand that there is no pressure to do anything that they are not comfortable with. She will eventually warm up to you and then put pressure on herself to see that things move forward. If you put too much pressure on her early she will run or shut down and avoid you just to get out of the situation. So here are a few tips to help you capture a very easy and worth while target for whatever your desires maybe. The one night stand is going to be harder than a date but that's the case with most women.


      First tip is to take control of the situation and let her know that you like her. Compliment her often. Let her know you like the way she smells or her hair ( Stay away from looks, eyes, and body ). Talk about how much you like her style. Basically reassure her that you're into her. Not too much though, otherwise she won't believe you. Their confidence isn't high enough to believe you totally. They will think you're saying whatever to get into her pants. The second tip is alcohol. Get her drinking. It isn't called liquid courage for nothing. Thirdly ask her what her concerns are. Unlike most women, they wont mind and probably will answer and be honest about it. Then address the problem to reassure her. Also it will show you plan on being patient with her to take away some of the pressure. When asking questions, try asking things that require more than one word answers. Ask things like why did she choose that profession. My fourth tip is to talk about and do things that she likes or knows. In other words, keep her in her type of environment. It will help her to relax and open up around you. The last tip is to make her laugh. If you can get her laughing she will forget how insecure she is. Now those are just a few tips on what you should do.

      Well now that you know what to do to capture her, there are few things I should mention that you want to try and avoid. The first thing is not to keep mentioning how shy she is or pointing out anything about her insecurities. Shy girls already know that they are shy, so it will only make her even more insecure about it if you keep bringing it up. The second tip is to avoid places where she might run into her friends and people she knows. That way she wont feel self conscious about what her friends might think. That tip is for everything, asking her out, going for a kiss or maybe even approaching her in the first place. Anywhere that will help her keep you on her mind and everything else off her mind. Depending on the situation you made need to get her on a date to make any serious moves. The next thing I want to mention not to do, is force anything. That means don't push her to talk about things that she doesn't want to talk about or do things she doesn't want to do. Don't harass her about how quiet she is or doesn't talk to much either. Another tip is stay away from public displays of affection. It will only tense her up. Finally don't give any inclination that it bothers you that she's shy, but it is equally important that you don't say you like the fact that she's shy.

     Now you know all you need to know to get a shy girl. I recommend shy women to all men, because it doesn't matter what type of guy you are, she is very obtainable. If you're the type of guy that doesn't embarrass easily and have no problem approaching women but have trouble sealing the deal, then I recommend the shy girl because women like strength in their men, especially in places where they lack it. So she will let it all loose once you get her to open up and be proud of herself for doing it. If you're the timid guy that is insecure when it comes to women, the shy girl will probably move at pace more comfortable for you. Not to mention, with her it's not as important to be the confident alpha male that most other women require. If you're the guy who always gets too nice, then this is the chick who will definitely appreciate you. Now with that being said go out and have some fun with a woman that will probably like the attention and you.
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By : Intimate Asking