Mens Guide To Sex On: The Texting Code

     With all of today's modern advances, communication has become a bit of a challenge. With emails and texting being the main form of communication for so many women, phone calls and love letters have fallen to the same level as the telegraph and smoke signals. Throw in the pop culture abbreviations, picture, and punctuation, it could leave even the smartest of scholars confused. So this post is for figuring out the texting code. There are good texts and bad texts, it all depends on how you look at it. This post we are going to give you the inside track on the texts she sends and what they mean. What she texts will give you an idea of how she feels about you and the situation. How you respond to those texts will make or break you. Women are constantly trying to figure us out, so they use texts to do it. Text are a good way because they can focus on the words you use instead of just what you said. In any event, I don't see why we can't do the same thing. With that being said, lets get to it.

   Lets start with some of the bad texts because those are the easiest and there aren't that many. If she doesn't care, she won't waste a lot of time texting you. If she makes a really stupid excuse why she can't hang out (playing with my dog) then she thinks you're a lowlife. Talking about other guys with you isn't good either. They hide other men from other guys they believe have potential. If she doesn't text you before her birthday or right after her birthday then you have messed up somewhere. One word texts are really bad. Women really hate them. So if she gives you one then she really doesn't care. Another sign she doesn't care anymore is bad spelling and grammar. The older a woman gets the more she cares about that sort of thing. If texting is her main source of communication, the more she tries to communicate the more she like you. The less she communicates the less she cares. Know if she has a lot of guy friends and everyone gets texts then her texting you could her just being friendly. Other than that, the more texts the better.

   As for the good things in texting, there are a lot more. If she texts you a lot then she probably likes you. Like I said before, the more text the more she likes you. Forty or more texts is obvious sign that yes she is into you. Putting a lot of XOXO's, smiley faces and exclamation point are all great signs she is into you. Texting comments on a string that ended hours ago is another sign. She is definitely into you if she send these long winded texts, being goofy, or talking about random things. Pictures with her in them are for you and a dead give away that she like you. If they are with her friends it doesn't necessarily mean anything. When they are with you then she is trying to connect and share with you. Mentioning bed, shower, or getting dressed is her way of flirting. If she mentions activities, she is trying to get you to ask her out. Texts that suggest she is checking up on you or asking for advice there is a very good chance she is crushing on you. Those situation is just her trying to make a connection. Women need to make a connection with a man to have anything intimate. Late night texts is a sign she likes you. At the bare minimum it's an attempt at a booty call but it a sign that she at least trusts you. Sending texts about her looks is her fishing to see what you like about her. Saying things like I love you or care about you are ballsy and she wouldn't say it unless she wants some moves made.

  
  Now those are a lot of the texting codes and their meaning. So pay attention to what she text's you. Women that do a lot of texting give away everything without even knowing it. So don't let these things confuse you. So here is where this post comes to an end. So go send some texts.

 

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Mens Guide To Sex On: Creating Sexual Tension

     Building sexual tension is probably the most important part in seducing a woman. It's what will get her in the position you want her in. Whether it's for a relationship or something purely sexual. Woman are a lot more like us than we want to admit. When it comes to sex and relationships, there are very few differences and there are a lot of exceptions that make those differences go away. The three main differences in us are options, frustrations, and opportunity. We all have all three. The difference is the reasons why. Women's options are limited because of connection and spark. The amount of available guys that are capable of making a connection and creating a spark are few and far between. So that creates a lack of opportunity, therefore a certain level of frustration develops. For men figuring out how to connect and creating the sparks is the problem. That is the reason for our frustration. There are no limits to opportunity because we are the main one's responsible for initiating contact. So every woman we pass is an opportunity. Which brings me to the point of this post, if you can make a connection, she is hoping you can make a spark. Sexual tension is that spark and this post is going to tell you how to do that.

          To build sexual tension there are a few things you want to remember. The first thing is to be relaxed. If you're relaxed it will make it easier for her to relax. Women are very in tune to your body language. That's how they do most of their communication. Not being relaxed can give off any number of bad vibes. That is the advantage bad boys, players, and even married men have over the average guy. They are already getting sex, so they're not desperate for it. They always have a very calm and laid back demeanor towards sex. They're just looking for the next conquest. If they don't score, they have something lined up as back up just in case what they are going for doesn't work out. Which brings me to moods, moods are contagious. Ever go to a great party in a bad mood and stay more than two hours? Do you leave that party in a bad mood? How about a funeral of some one you barely knew, are you sad when you get there? Are you sad when you leave? This is what I'm talking about. The mood gets reflected. This is what you need to do in building sexual tension. Not only do you need to do it but you need to do it properly as well. So not being relaxed is the first huge mistake most guys make. Not being relaxed gives off a lack of confidence. Another mistake is getting too flirty or sexual too early. That gives a needy desperate vibe, or maybe even creepy, also not good. Waiting too long to get sexual or flirty as well makes a few problems. Women are bigger perverts than we are ( Social etiquette are the only reason they don't make it known ). So in their mind, because of the many men hitting on them once they get in their head that you are not a sexual option, it's on to the next one. Simply put, be confident and relaxed from the beginning or you're defeated before you even start.

   Women are emotional creatures. So to make a connection is easy. Talk about emotional topics. Family, friends, and future plans are all emotional safe topics .The trick is not sounding generic. Being generic puts you in a position of counting on your looks. If you're really good looking, she may be willing to let you get away with it a little more than most guys but you will get old fast. You want to stick out. Being generic doesn't make you stick it, it makes you look like every other guy before you. When you seem different than the other guys she has been talking to, she will want to try and figure out why you are different. That's how mysterious factor kicks in. Mystery is very important when creating sexual tension. She has a pretty good idea on why you are talking to her but until the flirting starts, there is a level of uncertainty and a woman's insecurity intensifies it five times. So as long as you're a mystery, she will probably keep talking to you. So being a little ambiguous about your intentions at first is in your best interest. Now these are the first stage of building sexual tension. As you continue to talk to her, start to use using subliminal messages. By simply using key words, you can stimulate certain emotions. Words like passion, love, tight, position and yes. These are all words that have a sexual undertone that if use innocently enough can and probably will get her sexual juices flowing. The trick is to use them innocently without coming off sexually or even flirty. If you do this properly, you will peak her interests.
    

     Now this brings me to the final portion of creating sexual tension, reflecting the mood. Once you have peaked her interests, you want to start thinking about her in a sexual way. Maybe imagine her in the positions you want to get her in. Think about how you want to kiss her. Before you say something to her, say in your head ( not out loud ) “I really want to tear your ass up but,” then say what you really was going to out loud. The trick is to change the mood in her mind by changing the mood in yours. Trust me when I say she will pick up on the vibe. Now if she isn't responding go back to respectful and ambiguous immediately. You can always try again later. If you are doing this and she is responding or even just still there, means you have done it right. Then it's just a matter of flirting. Flirt without coming off as cheesy, and she is yours to do with as you will. With that, I end this post and send you forward to conquer.

Mens Guide To Sex On: Getting Out Of The Friend Zone

     We have all been there, the dreaded friend zone. At some point in time in our life there has been some girl that we wanted romantically is some capacity. It doesn't work out that way because she saw us as just a friend. Now what makes one just a friend and not a lover in a woman's eyes differs with each girl, with each guy, and with each situation. Now to be honest, it is usually a case of the guy not being able to create a spark. You obviously made a connection or you wouldn't be a friend in the first place. At some point you either failed to create a spark or you turned her off and you didn't creep her out. Women are selfish creatures and bigger perverts than we are. They usually look at men as sexual potential in some shape or form or they don't have much use for us. So if you're in the friend zone, at the bare minimum she see you as some one to at least boost her ego from time to time. So the good news is you can get out of the friend zone. Which brings me to the point of this post. Today we are talking about how to get out of the friend zone.

       Now to get out of the friend zone, we must first figure out why you are there in the first place. Also you may need to find out if she knows you like her in that way. If she doesn't know it could be just a matter of making your feeling known. In that situation, there is a possibility the only reason you're in the friend zone is because she doesn't think she can get anything else. In which case, shame on you for not have enough balls to make a move. Now to get back to why most are in the friend zone, like I said before women are very selfish creatures and there is a chance she has you in the friend zone to use you. It's the buy the cow, milk for free rule. For her you are too needy and desperate and doesn't respect you enough to be her man, but you still have uses. You can boost her ego for when she is feeling down after a break up. You are good for free drinks when at the bar or some one to pick her up at the airport. To be honest you can even move up to booty call if she is desperate enough and no one else is available. In that case, don't expect it regularly because she knows you are hoping for more and she doesn't want to encourage you. She only does it because she knows she can do it and not feel like a slut later. Unlike some stranger she met in a bar and hopes to never see again to avoid the walk of shame or even worse, an ex that might think he's still has some hold on her because of it, with you there is a level of control. Then there is the case of she isn't using you but she is just being nice to a very good person that deserves respect. She isn't a bitch and understands that you're a nice guy that will make some girl happy, just not her. She would love to hook you up with one of her friends. Then there is the case of which she just sees you as very bad boyfriend material. This situation is usually means you have a personal issue she doesn't want to deal with (finances, past treatment of women, culture). When you figure out which one you are, then you can figure out what to do about it.

     Once you figure why you're in the friend zone, you need to decide if getting out is worth it. You need to decide this for several reasons. First reason is once you get out, it will be damn near impossible to go back to the friendship you had. So if you have been friends for years it might be in your best interest to remain just friends. Now if you are friends just so she can get the benefits of a boyfriend without the commitment, then you need to ask yourself is this thekind of person you want as a partner. The fact that she feels it's OK to use anyone for any reason says a lot about her as a person. You really shouldn't judge people but when you are talking about your significant other, you really don't have a choice. The last reason to ask yourself is it worth it is because you may have to change something about yourself. It is never a good idea to do something your not comfortable with or pretend to be something your not to impress some one else. In other words, the purpose of this paragraph is to say it might be better to move on to the next girl if this one won't appreciate you as is.




      Remember this there is a difference between changing who you are and bettering yourself. Which is what needs to happen. You are trying to get your crush to see you in a different light. We all have flaws. There are things in all of us that could use some improvement. I am suggesting that you present yourself in a different light. So first get healthier. Try eating better and getting in better shape. Maybe even the opposite, if you're that gym rat in great shape who gets a lot of girls and your crush sees you as shallow or full of yourself. In which case you need to show her that you aren't as bad as she thinks. Then work on being more productive. Getting thing accomplished that you wanted to but always put it off. Work on being less emotional or becoming more spiritual. Just try to improve yourself in any way that you see is better for you. After you have demonstrated the new you. This is when you want to make your move. Ask her why you are in the friend zone. If she has seen the improvements and has changed her mind, she will probably say I don't know. Then you should suggest maybe you two should work on changing it. If it is a teasing no, I'm not sure or anything that resembles a hesitant no, then it has worked. She just wants a little effort. Then get her out on a friendly date and create some sexual tension. If it's a definite no with a legitimate reasons, then you got a little more work to do. Also try dating some one else and make sure your crush knows about it. Ask her advice on what to do for the new girl. You want to give the impression that the new girl is getting spoiled. That's the thing about women, they hate to miss out on a good thing. If they don't want it, they don't want anyone else to have it either. They are competitive and a little controlling. Another girl in her position of controlling you is a little threatening. Now if that doesn't work that usually means there is just some one else in your way. In which case you just need to be patient. Cause like I said before women look at men as sexual or she doesn't have any use for you. So you're just waiting on your night of her being desperate and want to feel better. Then you knock her socks off in the sack and you're in. Now those are the ways to get out of the friend zone. So stop wasting time and go collect that girl you've been crushing on.

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Intimate Asking

Mens Guide To Sex On: Why Older Women Are Better

     This post is dedicated to older women. Older women can be a relief from younger women in so many ways. Younger women can only compare physically and even that is a matter of opinion. Take that out of the equation, and it's like fine wine. It only gets better with age. Then it's a matter of how much can you drink before you get drunk. To explain all the reasons why an older woman might be a better romantic option for whatever intimate needs you require would take a book, but because there are so many it will not take long to make my point. So lets stop wasting time and get into it shall we?

     First of all, younger women want attention. Older women want respect. Her sex appeal comes from how she carries herself. Even if she has a nice body, her mind is what will get you wanting to tear her clothes off. Simply put she knows the difference between being sexy and looking slutty. Sexually she is young enough to do it often and old enough to do it well. They are at their sexual peak and will want it more than you do, and they knows exactly how to get it from you. They also have at least a decade of practice under her belt to make it worth your wild. Also depending on her experience, she is probably more willing to experiment. Younger women are usually very indecisive. They have no idea what they want. Even when they get what they think they want, they usually change their mind after they get it. To take it one step further, when they loose it (or get rid of it) they want it back when they see some one else with it. Older women know what they want and go for it when they find it. Which brings me to the next benefit, all women have a certain amount insecurities but older women handle them so much better. In other words a lot less games. They get to the point. When it comes to communication, I can't tell you how helpful this is. She is going to tell you what you need to know and when you need to know it. She isn't going to bitch at you, scream at you or yell at you and there is no hinting. She is going to talk to you directly a put it bluntly. They are also patient and once committed They are willing to work with you. They will put in the effort that you put in. The young girls are not patient and when it's not going the way she likes it, they usually bail. There is a higher level of responsibility with older woman that you can't find with younger ones. You can depend on her, even lean on her. She will depend on you a lot less and wont depend on you for things you can't provide. Young girls use the things you can't provide as an excuses to get rid of you. Now the best part about older women compared to younger women is their honesty. They will like you for more genuine reasons. It won't be anything other than you being you for he being there. She won't be there for your money, your car, or your status. Your personality is the only thing that can and will win her heart.

   Now there are some common traits and qualities that usually apply to all women regardless of their age. They all want fun, have a sense of adventure, lust for life, and an appreciation for a real man. The difference from the older woman compared to the younger one in these areas are, when it comes to fun an older woman knows how to have fun no matter who she's with. Even if you aren't her cup of tea, she will find common ground as oppose to a younger one who expects you to bring it to her. Also an older woman usually try to make sure you are having as much fun as she is. Her sense of adventure isn't limited to what she wants to do and going to what is considered popular. She is looking for the right travel companion, not just looking for who can afford to take her. She is helping with the bill. Her lust for life is different because of her experiences. They see life differently than their younger counterpart. So she is so much more emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially put together. She doesn't need anything, it's just a matter of what she wants. To get her all you need is you. What you bring to the table determines how long you stay. Which brings me to liking real men. Younger woman have a preconceived idea of what a man is or at least should be. When you don't measure up to it, she holds it against you. Older women realize that there are all kinds of men in this world and the fun is trying to figure out which one you are and experiencing what you have to offer. Turn her on and she will do her best to give you the experience of your life.

 

    I could go on and on about how an older woman are better than younger ones but like I said before that's a book, not a blog post. To get one just be yourself and let her decide how much she want to deal with you. They are very smart and can spot bullshit a mile away. So honesty with a direct approach is the best policy when approaching them. They will let you know very early if you're being successful. Just be confident, sincere, and attentive then see what's up. Any event I hope I have convinced you enough to at least go and see if I'm right.