Now
to get out of the friend zone, we must first figure out why you are
there in the first place. Also you may need to find out if she knows
you like her in that way. If she doesn't know it could be just a
matter of making your feeling known. In that situation, there is a
possibility the only reason you're in the friend zone is because she
doesn't think she can
get anything else. In which case, shame on you for not have
enough balls to make a move. Now to get back to why most are in
the friend zone, like I said before women are very selfish creatures
and there is a chance she has you in the friend zone to use you. It's
the buy the cow, milk for free rule. For her you are too needy and
desperate and doesn't respect you enough to
be her man, but you still have uses. You can boost her ego for
when she is feeling down after a break up. You are good for free
drinks when at the bar or some one to pick her up at the airport. To
be honest you can even move up to booty call if she is desperate
enough and no
one else is available. In that case, don't expect it regularly
because she knows you are hoping for more and she doesn't want to
encourage you. She only does it because she knows she can do it and
not feel like a slut later. Unlike some stranger she met in a bar and
hopes to
never see again to avoid the walk of shame or even worse, an ex
that might think he's still has some hold on her because of it, with
you there is a level of control. Then there is the case of she isn't
using you but she is just being nice to a very good person that
deserves respect. She isn't a bitch and understands that you're a
nice guy that will make some girl happy, just not her. She would love
to hook you up with one of her friends. Then there is the case of
which she
just sees you as very bad boyfriend material. This situation is
usually means you have a personal issue she doesn't want to deal with
(finances, past treatment of women, culture). When you figure out
which one you are, then you can figure out what to do about it.
Once you figure why you're in the friend zone, you need to decide if getting out is worth it. You need to decide this for several reasons. First reason is once you get out, it will be damn near impossible to go back to the friendship you had. So if you have been friends for years it might be in your best interest to remain just friends. Now if you are friends just so she can get the benefits of a boyfriend without the commitment, then you need to ask yourself is this thekind of person you want as a partner. The fact that she feels it's OK to use anyone for any reason says a lot about her as a person. You really shouldn't judge people but when you are talking about your significant other, you really don't have a choice. The last reason to ask yourself is it worth it is because you may have to change something about yourself. It is never a good idea to do something your not comfortable with or pretend to be something your not to impress some one else. In other words, the purpose of this paragraph is to say it might be better to move on to the next girl if this one won't appreciate you as is.
Remember this there is a difference between changing who you are and bettering yourself. Which is what needs to happen. You are trying to get your crush to see you in a different light. We all have flaws. There are things in all of us that could use some improvement. I am suggesting that you present yourself in a different light. So first get healthier. Try eating better and getting in better shape. Maybe even the opposite, if you're that gym rat in great shape who gets a lot of girls and your crush sees you as shallow or full of yourself. In which case you need to show her that you aren't as bad as she thinks. Then work on being more productive. Getting thing accomplished that you wanted to but always put it off. Work on being less emotional or becoming more spiritual. Just try to improve yourself in any way that you see is better for you. After you have demonstrated the new you. This is when you want to make your move. Ask her why you are in the friend zone. If she has seen the improvements and has changed her mind, she will probably say I don't know. Then you should suggest maybe you two should work on changing it. If it is a teasing no, I'm not sure or anything that resembles a hesitant no, then it has worked. She just wants a little effort. Then get her out on a friendly date and create some sexual tension. If it's a definite no with a legitimate reasons, then you got a little more work to do. Also try dating some one else and make sure your crush knows about it. Ask her advice on what to do for the new girl. You want to give the impression that the new girl is getting spoiled. That's the thing about women, they hate to miss out on a good thing. If they don't want it, they don't want anyone else to have it either. They are competitive and a little controlling. Another girl in her position of controlling you is a little threatening. Now if that doesn't work that usually means there is just some one else in your way. In which case you just need to be patient. Cause like I said before women look at men as sexual or she doesn't have any use for you. So you're just waiting on your night of her being desperate and want to feel better. Then you knock her socks off in the sack and you're in. Now those are the ways to get out of the friend zone. So stop wasting time and go collect that girl you've been crushing on.
By
Intimate Asking
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